I THINK I’VE ENTERED THE ANGER STAGE OF GRIEF

I don’t know if any of you have noticed lately, but my posts have been a bit more fiery, a bit more intense, and let’s face it, a bit more angry. I noticed it as well, but didn’t really think much of it. Until my therapist yesterday, ever so gently, suggested that I might be a bit more angry than usual. And that it might be because I’ve entered into the anger stage of grief, since I’ve been managing the pain and sadness of my recent breakup for several months now. As soon as she said that, I felt a strong YES within, and this felt very validating. She had noticed that I was just saying things with a bit more disgust. And this had been different than how she had seen me normally share things with her. So, yeah, in case you’ve noticed it as well, I think this is what’s happening folks. And guess what? I think it’s great! Continue reading I THINK I’VE ENTERED THE ANGER STAGE OF GRIEF

ASK FOR WHAT YOU WANT IN THE WORKPLACE

I’ve been meaning to write about this topic for awhile now, but I didn’t quite have enough material to work with. Now I do, so I’m going for it! Because I really believe so passionately that women in particular, rarely ask for what they want in the workplace, especially in terms of compensation. And what I have found, through my own personal experience, is that if you don’t ask, it won’t ever happen. And if you DO ask, you often get what you ask for, if not better! So, women, please do me a favor, and ask for what you want in the workplace! Because you are worth it! Continue reading ASK FOR WHAT YOU WANT IN THE WORKPLACE

FINDING OUR WAY TO LOVE

This is the fifth post of my “Real and Raw” guest post series. And I love that Chartel Findlater decided to tackle my favorite topic of all…relationships! And honestly, when you read her beautiful words, you will find that this is less about relationships and dating, and more about self-love and growth. Chartel speaks like a goddess. A goddess who has suffered some blows, walked away with some battle scars, yet picked herself up and kept going. I could cry just thinking about how WORTH IT we all are, despite how hard things can get sometimes. Especially when it comes to matters of the heart and intimacy. Continue reading FINDING OUR WAY TO LOVE

THE BEST WAY TO FALL IN LOVE WITH YOURSELF IS WITH SELF-TALK

Ever since I Lost My Dream Life 12 Days Before Christmas, I have been on an intense healing journey. Actually, I could say that I’ve been on a healing journey for most of my life. However, this journey was kicked into high gear when I was abruptly dumped by the person I thought I would be with forever. And as I’ve been processing the grief, the rejection, and the unbearable pain of missing him, I’ve also been reexamining myself. I’ve really been taking a look at the way I feel about myself, and how I much I love myself. And when I REALLY and truly take a good look at this, I see there is so much more room to expand. And only because I have been hearing about this idea so much lately, have I really begun to consider the concept of how to fall in love with yourself. Continue reading THE BEST WAY TO FALL IN LOVE WITH YOURSELF IS WITH SELF-TALK

I’M NOT REALLY INTERESTED IN YOUR PERFECT LIFE

The title for this post might sound a bit harsh at first, but stick with me. Because it’s really about human connection. And I’m not meaning to judge anyone or put anyone off. Instead, I’m just sharing my preference. Actually, that’s not really true, it’s kind of a strong belief I have in general about people. Because when it comes down to it, I’ve never really felt like my life was going the way I wanted it to. I grew up in a wreck of a family, and have had ups and downs in life ever since. So, I don’t really relate at all to people who seem to have perfect lives. And I’m not really interested in hearing about another person’s perfect life. For reasons I will get into below. Continue reading I’M NOT REALLY INTERESTED IN YOUR PERFECT LIFE

MY DEEPEST INSECURITIES THAT I DON’T THINK ARE TRUE

I’ve been feeling the need to get in touch with my deepest insecurities. Because after my painful breakup, I have been feeling so gross about myself, and so unlovable. And all of my false confidences that have carried me through for years are no longer staying strong. Instead, they have been replaced by my darkest warts. Or rather, my warts were always there, and my false confidences were like a hot pink cape, shielding said warts from the light of day. And yet, there’s also a part of me that KNOWS my warts are an illusion. And are really just small invitations for healing. That is why I’m so grateful for this blog. Because here, I can unearth these things, and sort them out through my words. I can untie the knots and make sense of it all. My blog has forever been, and will hopefully always be, my tool for healing. Continue reading MY DEEPEST INSECURITIES THAT I DON’T THINK ARE TRUE

MONDAY MORNING, IT’S SUNNY AND SILENT IN THE ROOM

This is the fourth post of my “Real and Raw” guest post series. Bridget McCafferty was part of my friend group during college from almost 20 years ago! I hadn’t seen Bridget for so long, until several years ago, we were at a baby shower for another friend in the group. It was so lovely to catch up, and we’ve been social media buddies ever since. However, I don’t really know much about Bridget’s life, and never really did. So, I was profoundly honored and excited when she responded to my real and raw guest post inquiry. Continue reading MONDAY MORNING, IT’S SUNNY AND SILENT IN THE ROOM

10 THINGS ABOUT ME THAT REALLY BOTHERED HIM

I’m feeling the need to write this post, because I’m still in an active grieving process. Grieving from being abruptly broken up with after three and a half years together. And after these four months, I’m still trying to pick up the pieces and make sense of the whole thing. So, as part of my healing journey, I’m wanting to make sure that I take some responsibility for myself. And I don’t want to just be a complete victim in the whole thing. Even though that’s 100% how I feel about it most of the time. And I don’t like this at all. But, no. It really takes two to tango. And we both made great contributions, as well as lots of mistakes. So, here’s my attempt at getting honest with myself, about the things about me that really bothered him. Continue reading 10 THINGS ABOUT ME THAT REALLY BOTHERED HIM