GENTLY EMERGING FROM MY STATE OF VICTIMHOOD

If you’ve been following my blog, especially over the last month, you will know that I was dumped just before Christmas. And I have been sharing about my pain, via this blog, ever since. I have been releasing article after article about my heartbreak and grieving, exposing my process. And you have been such supportive goddesses through all of it. But now, I sense a change coming. Maybe this change is arriving because my eyes are about to fall out from so much crying, and I want to keep them in tact. Or maybe, it’s just time. Regardless, I feel myself gently emerging from my state of victimhood. And have begun to experience the slightest glimmer of hope peeking through. Thank the fucking Goddesses! Continue reading GENTLY EMERGING FROM MY STATE OF VICTIMHOOD

I WOULD LOVE TO FEATURE YOUR REAL AND RAW STORY ON MY BLOG

This is an invitation to you, yes you, to submit to me your real and raw story, to be published as a guest post on my blog. As many of you know, I’ve been writing endlessly about my December breakup. And I’ve had to, for myself, to just get all the gunk up. It’s been so healing, and I’m certainly not done sharing about it! However, I feel the need to step out of myself a bit, and instead hear from you. Because honestly, it’s been so helpful to hear other people’s stories, as I navigate one of the most difficult times in my life. And we’re seriously all in this together, regardless of our relationship status. Life is hard, and we need each other. We need to hear from each other, and we need to support one another. And I want to facilitate that. Continue reading I WOULD LOVE TO FEATURE YOUR REAL AND RAW STORY ON MY BLOG

DO YOU KNOW WHY BUFFALOS RUN TOWARDS A STORM?

I just listened to an Insights at the Edge podcast episode about grief. And since that’s where I’m at right now, I was drawn to learning more about this process. In the episode, “Finding Meaning in Our Grief” with David Kessler, he talks about his experience researching buffalos. And how buffalos run towards a storm in order to minimize the time of their discomfort. Meaning, the anticipation and fear of the storm, is almost worse than the storm itself. So, the buffalos wisely just want to get it over with. And I COMPLETELY feel the same as those badass buffalos, and have always tried to deal with my pain in this way. Because it really does seem to help. Continue reading DO YOU KNOW WHY BUFFALOS RUN TOWARDS A STORM?

LEANING INTO THE MYSTERIES OF LOVE ITSELF

I struggle each day to make sense of my recent break-up. Each day, I try to understand how this could have happened to me. And how love can deliver such sadness, and pain, and unexplainable, tragic grief. Unfortunately, the more I try to understand it all, the more pain it seems to cause me. And so, I’m now playing with the idea of leaning into the mysteries of love itself. Because maybe love itself, and my idea of love, is the thing that I must make some peace with. My relationship is over, and there is no peace to be found regarding this failed union. But, perhaps I just need to step back a bit, and look at the bigger love picture. Continue reading LEANING INTO THE MYSTERIES OF LOVE ITSELF

LEAN INTO GRIEF AND DISCOVER THE MYSTERIES OF ITS WISDOM

My best friend sent me a link to an amazing podcast episode yesterday. And ever since I listened to it, I have been practicing deliberate heart-work, in order to help me process my grief. As discussed in the episode, I have been finding that when we lean into grief, rather than run from it, we uncover all of our illusions. And when we drop from our heads into our hearts, and honor the wisdom of our chest-center, we can move through grief, pain, loss, and sadness, in a much more productive way. It’s such hard work, but so much better than avoidance. Continue reading LEAN INTO GRIEF AND DISCOVER THE MYSTERIES OF ITS WISDOM

OOPS, I DID IT AGAIN, AND REPEATED MY LOVE MISTAKES

Argh, I feel so ashamed and embarrassed. Because I’m a 42 year-old-woman. And have only just realized that one of the reasons my love relationship just ended, is because of love mistakes I’ve been repeating since 2002! Granted, I’ve really only had two serious relationships in the last 20 years. So, if I was a bit more active with romantic risk-taking, I may have discovered this sooner. But, here I am. I’m right here, staring my uggo reality in the face. And it feels like muck. Although, it’s humbling beyond anything. Continue reading OOPS, I DID IT AGAIN, AND REPEATED MY LOVE MISTAKES

EXPERIENCING FREEDOM FROM FEAR AND NEGATIVITY IN NEW AND IMPROVED WAYS

Experiencing a break-up feels a bit like experiencing the death of a loved one. One goes through the same grieving process, and this process can’t be forced. It just sucks, and there’s no fucking way around it. But what also miraculously happens after a death, if we are open to it, are newfound open windows, doors, insights, and magic. We are often graced by these new opportunities, and don’t necessarily have to force them. We just have to hold on, white-knuckling, surviving the waves of sadness. And allow Grace to heal us, and gift us with new possibilities. And since my recent break-up, I am already experiencing freedom from fear and negativity in new and improved ways. Continue reading EXPERIENCING FREEDOM FROM FEAR AND NEGATIVITY IN NEW AND IMPROVED WAYS

STRUGGLING RIGHT NOW TO ACCEPT LIFE ON LIFE’S TERMS

One of the hardest parts about being dumped, is the fact that I had no say in the matter. And I’m really struggling right now to accept life on life’s terms. Because what this task requires is to basically sit and stew in the filth that is my current life. I can squirm and wriggle and try to free myself from this reality swamp. But the more I resist, the longer it’s going to take for me to get through this grieving process. This much I know. So, what I really need to do is just accept a few painful facts. Continue reading STRUGGLING RIGHT NOW TO ACCEPT LIFE ON LIFE’S TERMS