I’M NOT REALLY INTERESTED IN YOUR PERFECT LIFE

The title for this post might sound a bit harsh at first, but stick with me. Because it’s really about human connection. And I’m not meaning to judge anyone or put anyone off. Instead, I’m just sharing my preference. Actually, that’s not really true, it’s kind of a strong belief I have in general about people. Because when it comes down to it, I’ve never really felt like my life was going the way I wanted it to. I grew up in a wreck of a family, and have had ups and downs in life ever since. So, I don’t really relate at all to people who seem to have perfect lives. And I’m not really interested in hearing about another person’s perfect life. For reasons I will get into below. Continue reading I’M NOT REALLY INTERESTED IN YOUR PERFECT LIFE

MY DEEPEST INSECURITIES THAT I DON’T THINK ARE TRUE

I’ve been feeling the need to get in touch with my deepest insecurities. Because after my painful breakup, I have been feeling so gross about myself, and so unlovable. And all of my false confidences that have carried me through for years are no longer staying strong. Instead, they have been replaced by my darkest warts. Or rather, my warts were always there, and my false confidences were like a hot pink cape, shielding said warts from the light of day. And yet, there’s also a part of me that KNOWS my warts are an illusion. And are really just small invitations for healing. That is why I’m so grateful for this blog. Because here, I can unearth these things, and sort them out through my words. I can untie the knots and make sense of it all. My blog has forever been, and will hopefully always be, my tool for healing. Continue reading MY DEEPEST INSECURITIES THAT I DON’T THINK ARE TRUE

MONDAY MORNING, IT’S SUNNY AND SILENT IN THE ROOM

This is the fourth post of my “Real and Raw” guest post series. Bridget McCafferty was part of my friend group during college from almost 20 years ago! I hadn’t seen Bridget for so long, until several years ago, we were at a baby shower for another friend in the group. It was so lovely to catch up, and we’ve been social media buddies ever since. However, I don’t really know much about Bridget’s life, and never really did. So, I was profoundly honored and excited when she responded to my real and raw guest post inquiry. Continue reading MONDAY MORNING, IT’S SUNNY AND SILENT IN THE ROOM

10 THINGS ABOUT ME THAT REALLY BOTHERED HIM

I’m feeling the need to write this post, because I’m still in an active grieving process. Grieving from being abruptly broken up with after three and a half years together. And after these four months, I’m still trying to pick up the pieces and make sense of the whole thing. So, as part of my healing journey, I’m wanting to make sure that I take some responsibility for myself. And I don’t want to just be a complete victim in the whole thing. Even though that’s 100% how I feel about it most of the time. And I don’t like this at all. But, no. It really takes two to tango. And we both made great contributions, as well as lots of mistakes. So, here’s my attempt at getting honest with myself, about the things about me that really bothered him. Continue reading 10 THINGS ABOUT ME THAT REALLY BOTHERED HIM

BRINGING GODDESS AWARENESS TO THE MALE WOUNDS OF TOXIC MASCULINITY

s podcast episode, I discuss how to honor and bring more awareness to the very real male wounds of toxic masculinity, while at the same time, maintain our own goddess power as females. It’s an immensely tricky task, and having conversations about these very intricate dynamics is the first step towards healing. I also discuss double-standards when it comes to attraction, from both sides of the coin. And I talk about finding the balance between maintaining our healthy goddess anger in terms of empowerment, while still leading with compassion.  Continue reading BRINGING GODDESS AWARENESS TO THE MALE WOUNDS OF TOXIC MASCULINITY

I’M STILL A HOPEFUL ROMANTIC AT HEART

A thought popped in my head this morning on my way to work. It was a memory of a time when I was told by two “Angel Ladies” about the future of my love life. At the time I dismissed it, because I really didn’t like what they were saying. But, for the most part, their prophecy seems to have been pretty accurate. I’ll share the details below, don’t you worry. But for now, I’ll say that even though I’m 42 and recently dumped, I’m still a hopeful romantic at heart, despite their foreboding prophecy. I’m just not ready to give up yet. Even though the path behind me has been fraught with pain, frustration, and sadness. As these Angel Ladies had foreseen. Continue reading I’M STILL A HOPEFUL ROMANTIC AT HEART

A LOVE LETTER TO FEMALES WITH A STRONG PERSONALITY

I was in the car yesterday and was listening to a song from my youth. I wasn’t like a huge Silverchair (ca. 1997) fan or anything. But, a boy I was obsessed with in high school liked them. So, at the time, I made myself listen to a few songs, and actually still really like one of them. And hearing this song in the car got me thinking about the way I behaved when I was younger. I had a strong personality always, but so very often muffled myself in order to be liked and accepted. And I began wondering if there are other females like me who have strong personalities and have experienced being shamed for it. Continue reading A LOVE LETTER TO FEMALES WITH A STRONG PERSONALITY

REAL AND RAW RECOLLECTIONS OF BOOZE, CIGGIES, AND LOVE

This is the third post of my “Real and Raw” guest post series. This post, “Recollections Of Booze, Ciggies, And Love,” was written by my lovely, talented, and precious Aunt Sandy. Sandy has always been a creative person, and has been putting her art out into the world for as long as I’ve known her. She is a visual artist and crafter, but is also a beautiful writer, as you will see below. Continue reading REAL AND RAW RECOLLECTIONS OF BOOZE, CIGGIES, AND LOVE

5 UNASSUMING WAYS THAT FEMALES EXPRESS THEIR POWER

The idea for this article came to me in a random moment. I was taking the train to work, and was thinking about how many moments of the day females question their own power. Or decide to hide, or dumb it down in some way. And how hard it can be when females express their power deliberately. It’s never easy. Although, I have found that the more I do it, the easier it becomes. But, there are many unassuming ways that females express their power, that can often take others by surprise. Expressing power doesn’t necessarily involve raised voices, physical strength, or other stereotypical “male” expressions of power. Females can express power in everyday behaviors, and can get really good at it, with a bit of courage and persistence. Continue reading 5 UNASSUMING WAYS THAT FEMALES EXPRESS THEIR POWER