IT’S TIME TO LET MY EX GO, FOR REAL

It’s going on almost five months now since I Lost My Dream Life 12 Days Before Christmas when my ex broke up with me. And I’ve been working through my grief in such a positive way. I have reached a point where I can go a few days without crying, can experience utter joy, and feel hope for the future. However, over the last week, I was starting to feel more intense sadness about him. Sadness I hadn’t felt since the very beginning of my grieving process. And I started to wonder if this was possibly him and not me. I’ll explain more below. And so, even though there’s a huge part of me that doesn’t want to, I realized yesterday that I need to let my ex go at a much deeper level. And this involves mustering up the courage to do a cord cutting. Continue reading IT’S TIME TO LET MY EX GO, FOR REAL

THE TEARS ARE STILL FLOWING, BUT IT’S OKAY

I was on my couch last night, having a perfectly fine evening. My belly was full after eating a delicious meal of chick pea masala, brown rice, a salad, and a glass of wine. And I was sitting down to watch the finale of Spring Baking Championship on Food Network. When quite suddenly, I just began crying, and crying, and crying. And it still kind of amazes me that after almost 5 months following my heart-wrenching breakup, the tears are still flowing. But, it’s okay, and I’m okay. Continue reading THE TEARS ARE STILL FLOWING, BUT IT’S OKAY

I THINK I’VE ENTERED THE ANGER STAGE OF GRIEF

I don’t know if any of you have noticed lately, but my posts have been a bit more fiery, a bit more intense, and let’s face it, a bit more angry. I noticed it as well, but didn’t really think much of it. Until my therapist yesterday, ever so gently, suggested that I might be a bit more angry than usual. And that it might be because I’ve entered into the anger stage of grief, since I’ve been managing the pain and sadness of my recent breakup for several months now. As soon as she said that, I felt a strong YES within, and this felt very validating. She had noticed that I was just saying things with a bit more disgust. And this had been different than how she had seen me normally share things with her. So, yeah, in case you’ve noticed it as well, I think this is what’s happening folks. And guess what? I think it’s great! Continue reading I THINK I’VE ENTERED THE ANGER STAGE OF GRIEF

ASK FOR WHAT YOU WANT IN THE WORKPLACE

I’ve been meaning to write about this topic for awhile now, but I didn’t quite have enough material to work with. Now I do, so I’m going for it! Because I really believe so passionately that women in particular, rarely ask for what they want in the workplace, especially in terms of compensation. And what I have found, through my own personal experience, is that if you don’t ask, it won’t ever happen. And if you DO ask, you often get what you ask for, if not better! So, women, please do me a favor, and ask for what you want in the workplace! Because you are worth it! Continue reading ASK FOR WHAT YOU WANT IN THE WORKPLACE

FINDING OUR WAY TO LOVE

This is the fifth post of my “Real and Raw” guest post series. And I love that Chartel Findlater decided to tackle my favorite topic of all…relationships! And honestly, when you read her beautiful words, you will find that this is less about relationships and dating, and more about self-love and growth. Chartel speaks like a goddess. A goddess who has suffered some blows, walked away with some battle scars, yet picked herself up and kept going. I could cry just thinking about how WORTH IT we all are, despite how hard things can get sometimes. Especially when it comes to matters of the heart and intimacy. Continue reading FINDING OUR WAY TO LOVE

THE BEST WAY TO FALL IN LOVE WITH YOURSELF IS WITH SELF-TALK

Ever since I Lost My Dream Life 12 Days Before Christmas, I have been on an intense healing journey. Actually, I could say that I’ve been on a healing journey for most of my life. However, this journey was kicked into high gear when I was abruptly dumped by the person I thought I would be with forever. And as I’ve been processing the grief, the rejection, and the unbearable pain of missing him, I’ve also been reexamining myself. I’ve really been taking a look at the way I feel about myself, and how I much I love myself. And when I REALLY and truly take a good look at this, I see there is so much more room to expand. And only because I have been hearing about this idea so much lately, have I really begun to consider the concept of how to fall in love with yourself. Continue reading THE BEST WAY TO FALL IN LOVE WITH YOURSELF IS WITH SELF-TALK