1. Coincidentally, this morning I was asked to pick the photo of myself I wanted to use for a promo thingy so I’ve been clicking through them and being incredibly judge-y about all the flaws I see in every.single.photograph. (e.g., Do I really have this many chins? Ugh, my teeth. Uhm hello, wrinkles?! Ish, squished belly fat. Why did I stand like that? WTF is going on with my left eye?!, etc.) It’s embarrassing that I’m this nitpicky about myself. This internal monologue isn’t usually what’s going through my head about other women though.

    Interesting post.

    1. Thank u for reading! Yes, it’s interesting it seems like we can be split between ripping ourselves apart and/or ripping one another apart. And yes I suppose sometimes we do one more than the other, or none of the other at all. And ugh it’s such a hard inner dialogue to undo, to untie those knots! I don’t really know how to do it, which is why I just blab about it in the hopes that that will shake something loose 😬 thanks again for reading, beautiful goddess!! xo

  2. Comparing ourselves to others seems to be our default setting, and social media are making it worse.
    I am working on controlling my self-critical voice. Some days are better than others. I tended to judge other women more when I was younger, but I’m glad that has subsided with age.
    Thank you for another thought-provoking post, Libby ❤

  3. When I look at other women, I automatically judge myself! I try to find something nice about the woman and then put myself down in my head for not being that. Why am I not that pretty? What am I not that thin? Why am I not curvy like her? Why is my hair not well kept like her? :/

    You are beautiful and I am so glad you also believe that. Every time I look in the mirror I very rarely find myself happy with how I look. I hope I get there some day where I find myself pretty. 🙂

    1. Thanks so much for sharing 💖 Yes, I’m getting a lot of similar feedback from other women, so you’re not alone. And omg I wish you could see what I see. I absolutely LOVE your look and think you’re stunning and striking and gorgeous. For real. I suppose we’re always gonna want what we don’t have. And I’ve always wanted wild hair and dark features, so I could look like a mysterious goddess. 💜🖤U have that! So yes, I hope u see what I see someday. It’s a journey I guess! Thanks always for reading 🦋🙏😘

  4. When I was younger I used to dissect my looks and compare it to the pretty girls.. (at a point in my life I questioned if I was a lesbian lol because I looked so often but turns out I’m not lol)… I agree, society seems to value an attractive woman and have a very narrow view of what “attractive” is, pit women against each other and men are always freaking attractive in all the ways women can be judged as unattractive (ie. first thing in the morning without make-up, in old age with the silver hair, etc). Hmf!

    At some point I just had to tell myself that I can’t expect anyone to accept me for me unless I did it myself first!

    1. So fab, you goddess, yes! I totally checked out girls all the time too, ha! And still do 😬🤣 And yeah it’s soooooo annoying that the first signs of gray hair and wrinkles in a man are super sexy. And for women it’s like considered disgusting and basically the beginning of the end. Ugh F that so hard 👎👎🏻👎🏼👎🏽👎🏾👎🏿Thank u always for reading and sharing 🦋🙏

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