1. What a thought-provoking, fascinating post! I so so so love this topic and I’m very glad you chose to write about it. What a shame it is that we hardly think about negative representations in media- we never ponder over important things. What very wasteful species we are!

    Films have a powerful effect and are supposed to convey some sort of a message. But why is violence often the message conveyed? Worse, I can tolerate violence on the screen, but one I absolutely HAAATE and cringe at is the “damsel in distress” scenes where the woman is at the verge of being sexually abused or attacked and the hero comes flying from somewhere to save her day. SERIOUSLY??! Why is it that we hardly ever see a change in that and get to watch the lady strongly defend herself and set herself free? Why are women always portrayed as vulnerable and powerless? Will a hero actually come to save your day in real life?

    This is, in a way, asserting the perpetrators of a woman’s vulnerability and powerlessness, which I absolutely hate.

    Loved the points you brought out in this amazing article and the reference to TV shows. Will watch that documentary for sure. Absolutely loved this!

  2. This has been an ongoing debate in India over the past 2-3 years. A movie called ‘Kabir Singh’ came out in 2019 and became a superhit. At the center of the movie is a man called ‘Kabir Singh’ who goes around hitting people (due to some messed up anger issue) including the woman he loves. He apparently hits her out of love – WHAT EVEN? Add to that when his house help breaks a glass he chases her down the building to beat her up and apparently it is supposed to be a funny scene. And like I mentioned before this movie was one of the biggest Bollywood movies that year and it was a remake of the same movie in Tollywood (a South Indian branch of films) which was also a crazy hit.

    What filmmakers need to understand is how impressionable audiences are and how easily they are influenced by the movies and shows they watch. It is so alarming to see the cavalier attitude they still have around violence against women. In a lot of Indian cinema, violence against women was shown as a catalyst for the hero to well do his heroic things. Or that a hero being a stalker and sexually assaulting a woman leads to her falling in love with him. *EYE ROLL*

    I really hope things change in the future and I am so glad you wrote about this. <3

    1. Ugh that’s terrible. Yes it needs to change. And I actually think filmmakers are aware of how this affects people. But they also know that people actually like watching this?! That’s the part I don’t understand. How that could ever be seen as funny is beyond me. Such a crazy healing process we must all go through as humans! We’re so not there yet ❤️‍🩹

  3. Thank you for sharing. I have a zero tolerance to violence and I definitely can’t watch movies where women are either covertly or overtly abused. Ever see Crazy, Stupid Love? That movie makes me want to throw up!

      1. It’s more covert, like being creepy and the guys saying, “I won’t give up on my girl”. That’s what makes me want to throw up!

  4. I agree with so much of what you said, Libby. I don’t think violence is necessary to contribute to the “essence” of any fictional film. I do, however, think the jolting imagery (more so, the aftermath of such violence- not so much in the moment reenactment) searing and therefore helpful for people to understand the reality of such tragedies and how rampant these incidents of violence against women are. Does that make sense?

    Great, thought-provoking and powerful article!

  5. I can’t stomach violence on TV or in movies, and will turn off, walk out, stop watching in a minute. I don’t have cable or Internet at home so it’s not as much of an issue. But when I’m visiting friends or family they know: no violent flicks. For that matter, no blood/gore/horror either.

  6. I totally agree. Showing awful things happening to women in movies and on TV is a trope, a cliché that seems to continue to titillate, and I hate it, and won’t watch anything that smells of this. I hate objectification of women and I appreciate your seeing that there are many shades of it.

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