I don’t really want to write this post, because I get upset thinking about it. But it’s boiling for me right now, so I must. And after watching S4:E1 of Yellowstone last night, I decided that I will be boycotting violence in the media and aggression towards women. I’m not going to attach a link to the this show, because you can search for it if you’re curious. And I am not going to include any imagery of violence in the media. Because by doing so, I would go against the points I will be making, for boycotting violence in the first place. I would like to keep this short, and get this over with quickly. So, pardon the brevity. And here we go!
PS I use a fair amount of swear words in this post, and I apologize in advance if this is off-putting. But, you’ve been warned.
HOW IS VISUALS OF VIOLENCE IN THE MEDIA AND AGGRESSION TOWARDS WOMEN HELPFUL?
Guess what? I know what it looks like when a woman gets her face punched by a man. The media has shown enough of this. And I don’t believe the media is “bringing awareness” to the topic of violence in the world, in any healthy way. If anyone is unaware of the fact that violence and aggression towards women is a thing that happens regularly in the world, then that confuses me. Either they are a bit too sheltered to really know, which is not necessarily a bad thing. Or, they are in a bit of denial. But either way, I don’t need to see this in fictional form to know it exists. And seeing imagery of women being harmed in any way, does not add to my life in any way. In fact, it taketh away.
My mother experienced deeply disturbing, and life-threatening abuse during her years of alcohol addiction. I was in my teens and I did not witness her abuse first-hand. But I did see the after effects of this abuse. And I also don’t believe that sharing the details of her physical maladies, caused by this abuse, will be helpful here.
However, you may instead enjoy reading my article, “The World Is Petrified Of Strong Females.”
IF WOMEN RAN THE WORLD
I actually couldn’t make it through the entire first episode of Yellowstone. In fact, I couldn’t make it more than five minutes. After that, I had to turn it off. And I was angry, as well as nauseated. At that moment, I decided that after being a die hard fan for three seasons, I’m not even interested in seeing how it turns out. And I refuse to watch the rest of it.
After I turned off the show, I was speaking to a friend of mine about it. And we realized if women were running the world, and Hollywood, this would not be a thing. Why would women promote, glamorize, normalize, and spread imagery of such traumatic filth? We as women can all imagine what it might be like to experience this kind of thing, if we haven’t experienced it already. And we live with the fear of violence every day. Even if this fear is buried subconsciously, beneath the surface, we fundamentally feel our vulnerability in the world. And this fear, I believe, is deeply embedded in our cells.
WHY SUCH VIOLENCE?
My friend asked me why I thought there was so much of this kind of thing. And I didn’t even have to think about it. It’s because men rule Hollywood, and these are the flavor of fantasies inside of their brains. I’m not saying all men are violent towards women, or even have such violent thoughts. And I don’t know anything about Taylor Sheridan, creator of and writer for the show. But, what a fucking asshole. I mean, he can explain away all the reasons for this kind of violence in his show. But I don’t care and don’t want to hear it. Because all it does is harm our culture.
Definitely, definitely watch This Changes Everything on Netflix. And make the men in your life watch it as well. This is a documentary about the alarming lack of female representation in Hollywood.
From left, Joelle Dobrow, Nell Cox, Susan Nimoy, Dolores Ferraro, Lynne Littman and Victoria Hochberg in 1980. They founded the Directors Guild of America’s Women’s Steering Committee in 1979. Image Credit: Good Deed Entertainment
FUCK QUENTIN TARANTINO
I really don’t care what kind of “creative genius” everyone thinks Quentin Tarantino is. I think he is too, honestly. But I don’t care. He’s still an asshole for portraying such horror towards women, in all of his films.
I tried to watch Django Unchained and burst into tears during scenes where Kerry Washington was being abused. I’m sorry, but fuck Quentin Tarantino. He doesn’t know a damn thing about women, and only sees them as objects. Even if he portrays “empowered” women in his films, they are still objects. And most often, being violently abused in some way, shape, or form.
I suppose I can understand if triumphant portrayals of women overcoming abusive situations could be positive. Perhaps seeing this kind of strength in the media, can bring about healing within women who have experienced violence. So, I can not speak on that, and definitely do not want to take that away from any woman’s healing process. Please let me know if you agree.
However, I am boycotting violence in the media and aggression towards women, because watching these kinds of things does not add to my livelihood in any way. It traumatizes me, and makes me angry. And I don’t want to feel that way if I don’t have to. Violence is not entertaining to me. It’s painful, and sad, and frightening, and disturbing.
I know one could say that I might be choosing to be ignorant by my avoidance. But I’ve explained by now that I’m not ignorant of the problem of violence and aggression towards women. I’m turning away instead from its blockbuster portrayal. And that is all. It’s an act of self-preservation. I want to keep my soul happy and free. And the smut mentioned above just leaves dark marks on my heart, permanently. I don’t need that. And neither do you! Or any of us…
I know my viewpoint is rather harsh in this article. And I am open to hearing other sides of this argument, I truly am. But I feel strongly about this stance and I wanted to share this with my fellow goddesses. xo
THANK YOU FOR READING!
I told you I would keep this brief! So, how do you feel about my article? Do you think it’s extreme? Or do you agree in any way about this violence in the media and aggression towards women? Please let me know in the comments. xo
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