1. The second point – I did the same after my last breakup. I knew I had to cut him off but kept finding myself drawn towards texting him (out of habit). So in my notes tab every evening after work, I’d sit and write him a letter – telling him how my day went and what happened and also about how I was hurting/ It felt SO good to do it. I did it for about 12-13 days and then I slowly started finding myself wanting to talk to him less. So I reduced the frequency of my letters. 🙂
    I’m definitely a mouse – I run away from everything confrontational including dealing with my feelings.

    1. Omg that’s amazing! It’s so crazy how just getting it all out, even if the person never knows about it, makes such a difference. As always, it’s so nice to hear from other goddesses who have been there. It really, finally feels like it’s getting better, a little bit every day ❤️‍🩹

  2. Okay… I didn’t know this about buffalos and now I feel like they are my new spirit animal (forget the squirrel!)… wow… this is quite something… I too relate to so much about running toward the storm… every time shit hails upon me I always thinking,, JUST GET IT OVER WITH.. I just want to be on the other side of it! (But also, I can be pretty good at avoidance too!)…

    I think writing is sooo therapeutic in these situations… one of the things that really helped me during my first real heartbreak to my ex was actually writing to him (without sending it). I was able to get my feelings out (I kept a separate journal) and I thought one day I might give it to him and at the end of 11 or 12 months, I had filled up that book but no longer felt the need to reread it or give it to him. I wonder if I still have it but I bet I threw it out.. because I got to a point where everything I needed him to hear was on paper and ironically, I didn’t really need him to hear it, I just needed it out of my system! You’re doing great, Libby!

    1. Thanks Jen! I love that you did this journal thing also, that’s amazing. Can I ask how long it took you to move on / let go? I’ve discovered this podcast that’s helping me too and really it’s like whatever works to make me feel less like shit, Imma do. So lucky to have such supportive friends thank u ☺️ 🌟

      1. I honestly feel like it took me a year… but it was of course in phases.. for the first 2-3 months it was like blinding mental anguish… then around the 6 month mark I could go a week without crying but always in my head (the what-ifs) and then around 10 months or so I feel like I could laugh again and go a week without thinking about him but then when I did it would bring back memories and pain but I’d be able to bounce back more quickly than before… so I honestly want to say a year…. :/ And every time I thought I was okay again (before the one year mark) I feel like I’d have an even bigger set-back when I got sad again so I just stopped telling myself I was over him… I just moved through the motions, ya know…

  3. I had never heard of buffalos running toward a storm before, but I find it quite interesting. I used to be a procrastinator, and while I haven’t completely flipped the switch, I’ve learned to just take things on head-on instead of let them eat away at me. I now operate more from the perspective of getting unpleasant things done because I know I’ll feel so much better afterward.

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