I know I’m super lucky to have a twin sis. And in many ways, it really is as cools as everyone thinks it is. We shared a womb together and were side by side, quite literally, throughout our upbringing. We didn’t always get along, and we don’t have tons and tons of things in common. But we have a shared bond that is not really comparable to any other kind of relationship. And for whatever reason, with all of our differences, we especially bond over one particular topic more than any other. And that topic is pop culture. This week’s podcast episode features me geeking out about pop culture with my twin sister.
For my sister and I, pop music, pop movies, and pop culture in general, isn’t just some silly indulgence. Rather, it’s a reflection of our roots.
Growing up with an older teenage sister, we absorbed everything she exposed us to. Music was always playing, at home and in the car. The record player regularly blasted Flashdance. When a new song came out on the radio, we wanted to learn all of the lyrics so we could sing them and BE that pop singer. With every kick ass music video with a dance routine, we learned the dance. We performed for each other and impressed the hell out of one another. Our older sister loved to dance and had incredible moves. And my twin and I are phenomenal mimickers, I have to say. If our older sister was dancing a certain way, she was teaching us her moves, and we picked them up immediately.
From left to right: Me, my twin sister, and our older sister
Our older sister also introduced us to the greatest popular movies at a very early age. She would quote a line from a movie and make us guess what movie the quote was from. To this day, my twin and I can barely hold a conversation without playfully incorporating a movie quote. It’s just the way our brains are wired. We also all watched and enjoyed popular TV shows together. And my twin and I basically absorbed all that is pop culture, all of the time. It was just our childhood.
A BRIGHT LIGHT IN A TIME OF DARKNESS
Our childhood was also laced with much darkness. We endured scary times in unstable environments. And as vulnerable and sensitive children, we did what we needed to do in order to survive. We grabbed whatever light was available to us in those dark moments, and latched ourselves onto it with fierce devotion. For us, that light was pop everything. And it’s why today, as 41-year-old women, we still see pop culture as a bright light that inspires happiness and levity.
This was a super dark time in my childhood and here I am, dancing like a ridiculously free goddess. I have pop culture to thank for this freedom.
TWO VIRGOS TALKING TOGETHER ARE A FORCE
In this podcast episode, “Twin Sisters Discuss Pop Culture,” my twin and I expand on many subjects. In addition to being pop culture freaks, we are also both Virgos. And if you know anything about zodiac profiles, you know that Virgos are supremely critical and analytical. We are at times our best selves and our worst selves when we are analyzing things. We can (and do) judge. Putting things into boxes and make sweeping statements about things we know nothing about is a joy for us. And for us, as Virgos, organizing things, labeling things, and identifying where things belong, brings us an immense amount of pleasure. It helps our overly-crammed and chaotic minds to feel more organized and at peace. And since we consider ourselves somewhat of authorities on the topic of pop, we are in our element in this discussion.
Since we were lacking positive female role models in our lives as children, we often turned to pop culture for guidance. Female pop singers are strong icons. And regardless of whether or not they were strong human beings in real life, we clung to the pop goddess ideals these icons projected. It’s actually amazing my sister and I turned out as well as we did. Of course, we had some other positive and stable figures in our lives to keep us afloat. And I credit my current goddess-ness to family members like my grandmother, my father, and other supportive loved ones. However, pop culture icons were an integral crutch for two little girls who had no idea how the fuck to be female.
Read my related article, MY TOP 11 OVERLOOKED, EMPOWERING FEMALE POP SINGERS.
THANK YOU FOR POP
I’m sure so many females (and males) can relate to this struggle. It’s so hard being young, even if and when you are surrounded by nurturing and supportive adults. All I can say is thank you for pop. Pop culture saved me in my time of darkness, and honestly, continues to save me as an adult woman. I defend it to the end, and even if you don’t like or understand pop, I hope you still enjoyed reading this article. And if you’re a podcast-listener, give this episode a listen and consider subscribing to The Goddess Attainable Podcast. I hope to keep you entertained!
My twin sister photo bombing my Karate Kid moment ca. 1997.