Okay, so, since I’m not an actual goddess, I can’t really speak for them. But in my quest for goddess-esque living in all areas of my life, I do believe this concept is important to grasp and master. I have been thinking a lot lately about the fleeting nature of happy. Mostly, because I have been experiencing so many happy feelings in my daily life. And when this happens, I pause for a moment and reflect.
I think the former me, who had less goddess vibes to speak of, often clung to those happy moments. And the clinging brought about such states of fear and desperation. I think this had to do with the fact that I hadn’t yet constructed the life of my dreams. And don’t get me wrong, that’s a work in progress, and I don’t think we ever get it done. But when so many things in our lives are not the way we want them to be, those moments of happiness can become addictive. And losing them can feel like a painful crash.
SAVOR THE HAPPY, AND KNOW THAT IT WILL LEAVE WHEN IT WANTS TO
I had a gorgeous Sunday morning this past weekend. I woke up to a bedroom filled with green, tree-reflected light, the sound of gentle raindrops, and that perfect autumn chill from the windows we had left open all night. It was not too cold, and not too warm, and the coziness of my comforter kept me perfectly balanced, temperature-wise. I was floating on my soft bed and just waking slowly, appreciating the peace.
This is not an image of my actual window. But, if I showed you a pic of my actual window, it wouldn’t really capture the vibes. So, here is a gorgeous image taken by someone else, to give you an idea of the heaven I was feeling. Credit below.
As I went about my morning, it just kept getting better. I enjoyed my quiet cup of tea, and other things that I can’t even remember now. And as it was all happening, I kept thinking:
“This will be gone at some point, so just enjoy. No need to panic when it goes. Just appreciate that it’s here now.”
THE SHIFT IS INEVITABLE
And then at some point, around lunch time, something happened. That fleeting nature of happy really hit home, and things started sinking. It was a series of super small, no big deal things that happened. And then my happiness was gone. I tried to make an improvement to my blog and it didn’t work. I got an annoying text from someone. And that was pretty much it. That coveted perfect peace had evaporated. And I was left with cranky dissatisfaction.
And I do believe all of this is normal, and happens to all of us, all of the time. Luckily, the older I get, and the more often I allow The Goddesses into my life, the more frequently I experience moments of happy. So, don’t panic if you don’t fully relate yet. It’ll come with time. And when you make deliberate choices about the kind of life you want to live, the more happy you will feel, more often.
ONCE YOU LEARN TO FLIP THE SWITCH FROM LETTING YOUR LIFE RUN THE SHOW, TO MAKING DELIBERATE CHOICES TO TELL YOUR LIFE WHAT YOU WANT FROM IT, THE HAPPIER YOU WILL BE! BUT AGAIN, THIS TAKES TIME, SO BE PATIENT.
You might also enjoy my article, “Surrender To The Inevitable Ebbs Of Life.”
HOW THE GODDESSES DEAL WITH THE FLEETING NATURE OF HAPPY
Since I’ve never met a goddess, I can really only speculate. In my mind, I imagine that a goddess would handle that downshift in mood with grace. And with the matter-of-fact understanding that the happy will also come back again.
When my mood shifted on that day, yes, I was cranky. And it kind of sucked. But I didn’t panic, and I didn’t start telling myself the things we start telling ourselves when things go wrong. I didn’t say:
“Why does this always happen to me?”
And I didn’t blame the specific situation for the cause of my mood. Instead, I just kind of went with it. And instead said to myself:
“Okay, that happiness was super lovely while it lasted. I had a delicious morning, and some wouldn’t be so lucky. It’s kind of gone now, but that’s okay. I will have it again sometime soon. And right now, I just want to find a way to feel a bit better than I’m feeling right now.”
I think the other thing we tend to do, when we haven’t yet reached goddess status, is we hungrily try to get the happy back. That’s what makes the fleeting nature of happy so painful at times. And that hungry scramble can start to feel like trying to dig our way out of quicksand. Instead, it’s best if we recognize that the moment has passed. And now we are in a new moment, with new factors and new components. So, from HERE (and not from that old place of THERE), we can explore ways that will help us start to feel better.
I definitely never got back to feeling as great as I did that morning. But I dug myself out of it and had a pretty nice rest of the day anyway.
TO ALL OF MY FELLOW GODDESSES IN THE MAKING
I send my heartfelt love to all of you who struggle with getting happy. And I send lots of love to the younger me who was just so miserable for so long. I was so wrapped up in so many emotions, hormones, dark patterns, and dreams not yet acquired.
IT FUCKING HURTS LIVING WITH OUR UNMET DESIRES!
It’s so hard to experience deep happiness when we are waiting for our dreams to come true. But don’t give up, and just hang in there. It gets better with each passing day, it really does. And this fleeting nature of happy concept will eventually feel like something attainable. But when you’re just surviving and waiting for your life to be the way you want it to be, I know it’s so hard. Just remember, your happiness is worth it, and your dreams are worth striving for. You are amazing!! xo
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Featured Photo by Aleksandr Ledogorov on Unsplash
Window photo by Hannah Tims on Unsplash
Water and fog photo by Hiroshi Sugimoto
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