1. As much as I hate that you are in pain, I am hooked to reading your posts because I find so many answers in your journey. Though I also tend to avoid my grief – it usually bubbles over and I just cry till I feel nothing anymore and then I’m just over whatever it was that was making me sad. I don’t mean that I never think about it and feel sad but it isn’t a looming sadness.
    After my last break up, I just decided that I had to be 100% OKAY by myself and I worked on it – there are so many things that we THINK we can’t do, till we do them and then you realize your own powers. From fixing things to lifting THE heaviest boxes (during my last move I literally lifted like 25kgs weighing boxes since it was mid-pandemic and no one could come help me) to going on solo dates – I did them all step by step and ultimately realized I can do anything and don’t need anyone. Though like you say – it would be nice to have someone help out but if there isn’t – it is still okay. I’m sure you’ll get there too. ๐Ÿ™‚

    1. First, Iโ€™m soooo glad that my posts are helping/inspiring you. And your comment here is so inspiring to me! This morning I felt myself come out of victim mode for a moment, I think Iโ€™ll write a whole article about it. So yes, I want to be/get where you are. Thank you for showing me that, my sister!!! ๐Ÿ’–๐ŸŒธ๐Ÿ’ช๐Ÿ’ช๐Ÿป๐Ÿ’ช๐Ÿผ๐Ÿ’ช๐Ÿฝ๐Ÿ’ช๐Ÿพ๐Ÿ’ช๐Ÿฟ๐ŸŒธ๐Ÿ’–

  2. I am probably the most avoidant person ever… I’ve learned to compartmentalize so much in my life that I generally don’t own or face my raw emotions. I either hope with time it goes away or I just pretend it doesn’t exist. So far it hasn’t really worked well for me which is why I am such an advocate for therapy! LOL but not all therapy are made equal.. have to find the right type of therapy and therapist which is work that you probably can’t get to if you’re trying to mend an achy heart. I totally get it.

    For what it’s worth- I think you’re doing great. Writing about it, expressing your pain, showing up to your heart-work is definitely better than running from it. I admire that and will remember your strength when I need to do some heart-work myself! Keep at it, Libby! Day-by-day! ๐Ÿ’“

    1. Thank u thank u! Yes, finding a good therapist is really like finding a good partner, itโ€™s crazy. I like my therapist for now and have definitely been reaching out more lately. Sometimes I wish I could compartmentalize and not feel so much, but thatโ€™s never been me. Maybe Iโ€™ll give u some of mine and u give me some of yours ๐Ÿคฃ๐Ÿ˜˜

  3. THIS: “I noticed that I would stuff the pain down a bit. And then it would kind of abruptly and violently burst in a fragile moment. And my tears felt hot and full of intensity.”
    So relatable and 100% me.
    Your wisdom is gold, Libby, my friend and goddess. Yes, we’re all constantly falling apart and piecing ourselves back together in some way or another. Your openness about your journey of self-discovery and healing is such loving guidance. Thank youโคโคโค

  4. These written reflections of past moments and experiences are such a wonderful way to reconnect with the teachings of a moment and really take a lesson or idea to heart! Loved reading this self-connected musing. ๐Ÿ™‚

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