1. Who knows why we grieve the way we do? I think everyone is different. My mom lived a decade longer than my dad, and her dementia progressed to the point where she mixed up me with him in her last couple of years. That was one one of the things that was hardest for me to witness because they truly loved each other for over 50 years. It made me sad that she couldn’t remember him.

    1. Thank you for sharing that. Yes, everyone has their own heartbreak and everyone’s is a bit different but no less challenging. It’s hard to make sense of such sad things. I just keep thinking “This too shall pass” and hopefully it will! ❤️‍🩹🌺

  2. Libby, this was such a beautiful, heart-felt dedication to your muse, your mother. I think about how fragile the relationship between mother and daughter is and I can’t help but fear being seen as something I am not to Charlotte when she grows up. I don’t have a close relationship with my mom but your post reminds me that maybe I need to revisit making more of an effort now…

    I haven’t personally dealt with a lot of grief of a passed family member (just my grandfather a few years ago) but I reckon I’m someone who compartmentalizes well. I use a lot of distractions and when I can’t tamper it down any more, I tend to split open and that’s generally when I discover the most healing.

    Loved seeing your art work. I wouldn’t worry about what the lack of inspiration for making art re: healing towards Mike… I would just take it day by day. I know you’re doing the best you can and that’s really all you can do!

    1. Thanks so much for your words Jen. Yeah, the mother daughter dynamic is so layered because it’s two women! And we’re so multi-faceted. I’m sure like most girls Charlotte might go through a phase of not seeing you how you really are, because she’ll be trying to figure out who she really is. But then as we all get older, I think we let a lot of things go, and in the end you just want to appreciate who you have. And that goes for mothers and daughters as well. She’s lucky to have a mom like you who really cares 💖💖💖 I love your self-awareness about how you split open, and maybe that’s just your way. I wonder what your zodiac sign is, I’m dying to know 🤔 sorry if you already told me and I forgot! Thank u also for your supportive words about my art. I agree, we’re all just doing our best at the end of the day and that’s gotta be enough!! ☺️😘🌺❤️‍🩹

      1. Thank you for your kind words 🙂 I am an Aries (we’ve never discussed this :)).. if you had to guess, what would you have guessed? I feel like I fit the Aries profile quite exactly LOL… fiery, intense, a bit nuts, hard (as in loves hard) and never forgets! lol… What sign are you?

  3. After losing my husband of twenty years I cried, worried about whether I was grieving him correctly and then I started a blog on being gay and grieving. Channeling my sadness in this way was one of the things that kept me sane. Thanks for a truthful and thought-provoking blog.

    1. Thank you so much for sharing this and I’m so sorry for your loss 💔❤️‍🩹 I love that you turned to blogging as a way to heal your heart and sort through all of these tremendous emotions. I just started following you and look forward to reading about your journey! And thank you for your kind words 💖☺️

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