IMAGINE IF YOU WERE JOBLESS FOR 10 YEARS STRAIGHT

Firstly, this isn’t a post about being jobless. It’s about being single. And I’m just warning you, this might be another “please feel sorry for me” post. So I’m apologizing in advance. However, I was trying to think of a way to explain what it’s like to be perpetually single for close to two decades. And how truly wrong it feels to experience relationship scarcity for an extended period of time. So, this is what I came up with. And am asking you for a moment, to imagine that jobless-ness and single-ness are one and the same. And in this post, I’m going to break down what it might look and feel like to be jobless for 10 years. When in reality, I’m just talking about myself, and swapping out love for work. Make sense? Then, let’s go! Continue reading IMAGINE IF YOU WERE JOBLESS FOR 10 YEARS STRAIGHT

I KEEP LOOKING OUTSIDE OF MYSELF FOR LOVE AND HAPPINESS

I think I’m doing this whole life thing wrong at the moment. Because I know on paper, the wiser rules say that we have to be happy with ourselves first before we can love another. And I’m not saying I’m not happy with myself. I really do love myself, even more now than I ever have. My heartbreaking breakup really sent me that gift. And yet, when I hear people say that all the love we need is within ourselves, I get confused. I wonder how someone can be fine if they lost their partner. Or went their whole lives without someone to share it with. And I know it’s wrong, but I have to admit, that right now, I keep looking outside of myself for love and happiness. And I’m not sure what to do about this. Continue reading I KEEP LOOKING OUTSIDE OF MYSELF FOR LOVE AND HAPPINESS

IMAGINE YOURSELF FLOATING IN A RIVER

Okay, I’m not sure where I’m going to go with this post as of now. But hang in there with me and let’s just see. This post was inspired by a newsletter I read this morning in which a woman named Pamela Kribbe channeled a message from Mother Earth. If you’re not into this kind of thing, you can still get something from this post and this quote. Because this quote was essentially asking us to imagine ourselves floating in a river. And to feel what it feels like to just let go. As if the river represents our world and our life as we currently know it. Continue reading IMAGINE YOURSELF FLOATING IN A RIVER

I HATE MEDITATING, BUT I DO IT ANYWAY

I’ve gone in circles so many times about this topic. And I’ve written multiple posts about my “journey” with meditation. I have had a very stop and start kind of relationship with this practice, and I’m essentially super half-assed about it. So, in this post, I’m not going to try to come across as some meditation goddess. Because I am so not. And instead, I’m going to do what I do best. Which is tell the truth about how I actually feel. Because if I’m being honest, I hate meditating. I really and truly hate it. But, I do it anyway. And I’m not even sure why. But, I’ll try to explain below. Continue reading I HATE MEDITATING, BUT I DO IT ANYWAY

I WILL NEVER REALLY KNOW MY MOTHER, BUT I’LL TELL YOU WHAT I DO KNOW

At the suggestion of my blogging bestie, Moksha of The Happy Panda, I’m going to attempt to begin a series of mother-related posts. My mother was a fascinating character, and I agree that her life story is one worth sharing. I will try to keep this relatively chronological. However, her life was quite chaotic. And my perception of her and her life was and is equally quite splotchy. Also, this is a person’s life. It’s their work of art, and this can never be comprehensively scoped. Especially because my mother is no longer here to fill in the blanks. But, I will do my best. Continue reading I WILL NEVER REALLY KNOW MY MOTHER, BUT I’LL TELL YOU WHAT I DO KNOW

CHILDLESS, SINGLE WOMEN OVER 40 GET NO LOVE

I really don’t want to tackle this post, because it’s not something I love thinking about. However, I do think it’s important to bring this perspective into the light. Since it’s not spoken about very often. At least, I don’t come across it very often. Because the truth is, single women over 40 who do not have children, really have a rough time holding their heads high in society. At least, I do. And it’s a tricky topic because women have all sorts of reasons for being over 40 and childless. Some women are there by choice, and others, not so much. But I think there are a LOT of childless, single women over 40, and I think they hide out like I do, managing their shame and embarrassment behind closed doors. And this blog post is my way of attempting to overcome at least a little bit of those negative feelings. Continue reading CHILDLESS, SINGLE WOMEN OVER 40 GET NO LOVE

EMERGING LIKE A PHOENIX IN MY ROMANTIC LIFE

I’m going to keep this post a bit vague and brief (I think), because I don’t exactly know what’s happening yet. However, I’ve been feeling really, really good lately. Despite being 5 months out of a heart-wrenching breakup. And over the last few weeks, I feel like I’ve been emerging like a Phoenix in more ways than one. But I’ve been most Phoenix-like when it comes to my romantic life. And I’ve honestly been thinking, feeling, and doing things I’ve NEVER done before! It’s truly amazing what happens when unexpected loss happens in life. If we can surrender to the grieving process and tap into our hearts. Continue reading EMERGING LIKE A PHOENIX IN MY ROMANTIC LIFE

YOUNG PREGNANCY CAN BE LONELY AND TERRIFYING

This is the sixth post of my “Real and Raw” guest post series. And this one is extra special for me because it’s written by one of my very dear friends. I met Julia (Juls) Washington when I was a guest on her utterly brilliant podcast, Pop Culture Makes Me Jealous. And we really connected on so many levels, very quickly, and I’m so thankful for her friendship! I also greatly admire her as a creative person and a lovely human being in general. And even more, I love her real and raw courage to share her experience with young pregnancy goddess-ness. Continue reading YOUNG PREGNANCY CAN BE LONELY AND TERRIFYING

PINTEREST IS A TERRIFIC BLOG MARKETING TOOL

I’m writing this blog post, not necessarily because I’m a blogging expert. But more because I have many blogging friends who have WAY more followers than I do. And yet they don’t use Pinterest as a blog marketing tool. And for my blogger friends who have a larger following, I know many of them would like to not only keep, but continue to grow their following. So, I thought I would share my experience with using Pinterest thus far, in the hopes that it inspires my fellow bloggers. It’s also one of the more fun blog marketing tools out there, so why not?! Continue reading PINTEREST IS A TERRIFIC BLOG MARKETING TOOL

ASK FOR WHAT YOU WANT IN THE WORKPLACE

I’ve been meaning to write about this topic for awhile now, but I didn’t quite have enough material to work with. Now I do, so I’m going for it! Because I really believe so passionately that women in particular, rarely ask for what they want in the workplace, especially in terms of compensation. And what I have found, through my own personal experience, is that if you don’t ask, it won’t ever happen. And if you DO ask, you often get what you ask for, if not better! So, women, please do me a favor, and ask for what you want in the workplace! Because you are worth it! Continue reading ASK FOR WHAT YOU WANT IN THE WORKPLACE