THE THINGS I’M FOCUSING ON NOW, OTHER THAN MEN

I know I recently declared that I’m now taking a deep dive into the dating apps. Since I was dumped a few months ago, and was feeling more ready to give dating a try. And I’m not saying I’m swearing off dating apps forever. I haven’t had terrible experiences since I got back on the apps. And there’s really no reason why I’m feeling inspired to put the apps down already. Other than the fact that I JUST DON’T WANT TO DATE RIGHT NOW. I’m just not feeling interested in men, or relationships, or romance, or sex, or flirting, or dating, or any of that stuff. Not at all. And it’s kind of wigging me out. Because this is all I’ve ever been interested in, ever. Since I was five years old! And this is the first time I’m really interested in things other than men. Continue reading THE THINGS I’M FOCUSING ON NOW, OTHER THAN MEN

BEING SINGLE DOESN’T HAVE TO MEAN BEING MISERABLE

In this podcast episode, I share a bit about the grieving process over my recent breakup, and where I am at now, after all is said and done. And I expand upon a new way of being single, that entails avoiding the angst, and drama, and desperate longing, that often accompanied my search for love in the past. And how I’m excited by a new approach to finding love that doesn’t involve so much struggle. I also share about how I’m coming to terms with the fact that I really do need to find a way to get to a place of complete happiness, with or without a partner. And how I must learn new ways of living life as a single person, and letting go of such intense focus on finding someone. Being single and being miserable must no longer be mutually exclusive!!  Continue reading BEING SINGLE DOESN’T HAVE TO MEAN BEING MISERABLE

HAVING THE AUDACITY TO BE HAPPY AND SINGLE OVER 40

In this podcast episode, I talk about some touchy subjects regarding the judgements and pressures that our patriarchal society places on single women in particular.  Marriage and children are beautiful things that I support and desire. And yet, at the same time, if women are unmarried and/or without children, they often receive deeply insidious societal messages that tell them they are somehow less than. And therefore, how dare they have the audacity to be happy as single women?! I also expand upon some of the problems with marriage in a patriarchal society. And mention the three patriarchal ideals of entitlement, childishness, and laziness, and how single women in particular are a threat to these ideals. I hope this episode inspires those who are feeling ashamed of their single status to say NO to these messages. And instead, have the audacity to be happy, regardless of your relationship status. Continue reading HAVING THE AUDACITY TO BE HAPPY AND SINGLE OVER 40

I’VE NEVER NOT RUSHED INTO FINDING A MAN…UNTIL NOW

In this podcast episode, I share with you my history of obsessively searching for love, beginning at the age of 5 years old. And how my recent breakup has shaped a new way of approaching love. For this time around, I would like to take my time, set deliberate intentions, and make sure my motivations for finding a man to share my life with, are coming from a goddess-level place, and not from a place of needy desperation. I share with you some ideas I have for preparing to get out there into the dating world, and expand upon my new and next-level mindset for finding love.  Continue reading I’VE NEVER NOT RUSHED INTO FINDING A MAN…UNTIL NOW

ATTEMPTING TO UNCOVER HOW I REALLY FEEL ABOUT MYSELF

In this podcast episode, I share honestly about my false confidence and buried feelings of self-hate, and expand upon my recent experience with inner child work. I also get really honest about my true feelings about my ex, and how his anger towards me triggers my feelings of self-hate and low self-worth. And most importantly, I share with you the tools and resources that I have been using to sort through this muck, and how I have been finding new and improved ways to treat myself with more love, and more understanding. Something I think we can all use a bit more of, don’t you!? Continue reading ATTEMPTING TO UNCOVER HOW I REALLY FEEL ABOUT MYSELF

GRAPPLING WITH THE OKAYNESS OF NOT BEING IN CONTROL

In this podcast episode, I share a bit about how my control issues originated in childhood, and how those control issues have shaped the way I view my current love life, my single status, and my approach to finding new love. I was inspired by something Lindsay Mack shared in her beautiful podcast, Tarot For The Wild Soul. And she essentially said that we have no control over finding our love partner. This blew my mind, and still does! Because for so many years, I really thought I could control everything, including my path to love. Finally, I share about new ideas and ways in which I’m attempting to reframe this controlling way of thinking, in order to open me up to greater love and happiness! Continue reading GRAPPLING WITH THE OKAYNESS OF NOT BEING IN CONTROL

PUTTING MY LIFE IN THE HANDS OF THE GODDESSES, I THINK…

In this episode of The Goddess Attainable Podcast, I share a bit about how I’m trying to find a new way to manage my fears and stresses about money and other life things, in the wake of my recent and abrupt breakup. And I give details about a sort of miracle experience with a mop, that I had while I was communicating with The Goddesses. This episode is about making a choice to turn things over (to a power greater than ourselves, in whatever form that takes), when life is just too scary and overwhelming. Continue reading PUTTING MY LIFE IN THE HANDS OF THE GODDESSES, I THINK…

NAVIGATING THE MALE-DOMINATED FINANCIAL WORLD AS A FEMALE

In this podcast episode, I fangirl over Sallie Krawcheck, Founder and CEO of Ellevest. This is not an interview with Sallie. But instead, I give a heartfelt goddess shoutout. And share details about her work, and why she inspires me enough to devote an entire podcast episode to her! Continue reading NAVIGATING THE MALE-DOMINATED FINANCIAL WORLD AS A FEMALE

HOW TO HEAL YOUR WOUNDED INNER CHILD

Are you a human being? Yes? And as a human being, have you ever experienced any pain, trauma, or fear as a child? Probably. And as an adult, do you sometimes get triggered by something that feels sort of deep-seated and somewhat irrational? Well, if so, welcome to being a person! Whether or not you had a dark childhood, or a fairly bright one, we’ve all experienced some form of trauma or fear as a little person. And we carry that wounded inner child around with us at all times, even if we are adulting like a goddess and holding down our shit! Well, I have an exercise that’s super easy and safe, if you are like me and don’t want to allow your wounded inner child to dictate your happiness as an adult. Continue reading HOW TO HEAL YOUR WOUNDED INNER CHILD

CATCHING UP 20 YEARS LATER WITH MY COLLEGE ROOMMATE

I don’t often keep in touch with people I went to school with. My friends were few and far between in high school. And in college, I really only connected with a rare few, even though I desperately tried to find like-minded souls during that time. And although my college roommate and I had very little in common, and did not hang in the same circles, we still kinda dug each other. We most likely never would have been friends if we weren’t randomly assigned to live with each other freshman year. And when you live with someone, if all goes well, it’s easy to form a bond that can last well after you have both moved on. This POD-BLOG* article, and this week’s podcast episode, revolves around my catching up 20 years later with my college roommate, Molly McIntyre. Continue reading CATCHING UP 20 YEARS LATER WITH MY COLLEGE ROOMMATE