1. So so relatable! Love this post!!!❤

    And I am so proud of myself for being able to say no to emotionally unavailable men. I recently met this man and it was all sparks. You know one of those men who really intellectually stimulates you? But he was so emotionally closed off. He’d be vulnerable one minute and shut off the next. He also found the need to make fun of my flaws. 🥺 I’m sure his past experiences had a role to play in this. And past me would have tried to play the “fixer” and help him out but present me knows that despite all the chemistry, being with him would eventually become toxic. So I ended things. Feels so so good.

    The thing about being happily single is that I’m getting to this place where a relationship and dating has started to feel like a lot of effort. Like I’m happy just by myself. 🙈

    It’s so nice to read someone else’s relatable experiences. It is so crazy how you’d think an older man would be more mature but they end up bringing even more baggage. I’ve had a similar experience.

    1. Yay I’m so glad you relate! And wow yes, you sound like you’re way ahead of the game! So many broken people out there. And we’re all broken I guess, but we can be broken and still keep our hearts open. And so many people just close off, and it feels so shitty to be around someone closed off. I know I thought the same thing about older men! And then I ended up with a guy 7 years younger than me ha! I can’t wait to hear more about your journey!! 🥰🌺☺️

  2. Extremely relatable! I have always believed in loving oneself and learning the art of saying no. Giving in to the point of saying yes (to me) is innately about lack of self-confidence and self-value, harboring unnecessary guilt, putting others needs first and giving in to the fear. In life, it’s important to learn how to say no, in general. I appreciate you highlighting this! I find it doesn’t often get discussed- women are natural people-pleasers, unfortunately. I often have friends asking me on side-chats, “How do I say no to this person?? How do I let that person down? I felt pressured to say yes, how do I get out of it?”

    I also think a lot of people who are asking single people the annoying questions and giving out fluffy advice are secretly living vicariously through the singles. I do this too, unfortunately. I think (and people might disagree with this) it makes people feel better to see and know that singles are striving for something they already have- and this makes relationship-people feel a bit better about where they are. Could it be a self-serving tool? Sometimes, maybe? 🤷‍♀️

    1. Yes I agree with all of what you’re saying, and I’m so glad you relate! Sometimes I feel like the bad guy/gal for bringing these issues up and saying to think of yourself first. Because yeah it’s so judged among women when we do that. But so important, right?! Thanks so much for reading and sharing, Jen! xo

  3. I love this, Libby! Brava! You nailed it, of course, and I’m so impressed that you realized — and implemented — these two things at a relatively young age. I was pushing 60 before I attained your level of wisdom and self-love.
    Thank you for sharing this!❤❤

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