The idea for this blog post is 100% inspired by my newest and dearest blogging friend K E Garland. Her original post, “8 Titles Of Blogs I’m Not Going To Write,” inspired me with its pep, variation, and substance. And also, as a blogger, I can relate to creating an amazing title for a blog post and then losing the inspiration to write about it. Unwritten blog posts are just part of the creative blogging process and no big deal. And so, I love how Kathy captured this, and I kinda just love her in general! She also recently guest posted for me, and wow, this article got SO much love. She’s thoughtful, badass, honest, brilliant, and goddess-esque to her core. So, of course I love her!
Read Kathy’s guest post for The Goddess Attainable, “Why I Hate Being A Woman.”
6 OF MY UNWRITTEN BLOG POSTS
Imma get right into this and just share some of the titles I have created over the last few months. As well as what I would have written about, had I actually written the article.
And away we go!
1. VULVA ART
When I created my Goddess Vibes Vagina Mugs, I got really interested in other objects and works of art that featured vulva motifs. And I was starting to get overwhelmed by how inspired I felt by so many other beautiful products out there. So, I was going to do a listicle of websites that featured other vulva-oriented products.
Custom made vulva charms by CassandraSoderstrom on Etsy
Sometimes I wonder if it is setting a bit of a double standard, posting images of vaginas left and right. Because most of us are often rather offended when we see dick pics in general. However, because females are an underrepresented minority, I think that flooding the market with vagina pride is helpful. I also believe that there is a lot more shame projected onto female bodies, female sexuality, and specifically, the female sexual organs. In comparison to male bodies, male sexuality, and dicks in general. So, I do support anything that encourages female confidence, acceptance, and appreciation with regards to female sexual power.
2. EASY LISTENING POP MUSIC FOR THE MATURE GODDESS
Hm, I might actually try to finish this one someday. Mostly, because it’s already half-written. But, I also might not, because I really don’t care about this topic.
I started this unwritten blog post because I realize that as I am getting older, my music taste is morphing. And even though I love my pop music, and I will always be a pop gal at heart, I do feel a shift as of late. And sometimes, I’m not always in the mood to get fired up and emotional, the way pop music inspires me to do so. Pop music stirs my feelings and gets my blood pumping. But sometimes, I just want to mellow out and not engage. Sometimes, I just want some nice sounding noise in the background. And I don’t really want to feel much of anything.
Read more about my love of the very often misunderstood genre of pop music in my article, “My Top 11 Overlooked, Empowering Female Pop Singers.”
I know this shift in music taste is DEFINITELY a sign of aging. But, that’s okay, and I lean into it. And I think it’s kind of endearing that I no longer know “what kids are listening to these days.” It’s just part of the process of growing, adulting, and
getting old maturing. So, this unwritten blog post may or may not emerge onto this platform. But, it was a fun idea for a moment!
3. IT’S GOOD TO LET GO OF TOXIC GIRLFRIENDS
This one is a tough-y, and is quite emotional for me, as far as unwritten blog posts go. I feel very strongly about letting go of girlfriends, or anyone in general, who is too toxic. However, I have a handful of girlfriends whom I have let go of, over the last few years. And my heart still feels a bit torn about them.
There are girlfriends whom I have abruptly cut off, or drifted away from without much explanation. In some cases, the friends I let go of were kind of wrapped up in their own stuff. And at the time, I didn’t feel that it would have been helpful to share with them my genuine feelings about them or our friendship. In these cases, I made a decision to let go, based on the fact that I was no longer feeling fulfilled by the relationship. Or, based on the fact that I didn’t feel I could be completely honest with them at times.
When I look back on all of these choices, I still feel like they were the right thing to do. But sadly, I do miss some of them very much. They may not know this, and might assume that me letting them go meant that I didn’t care. However, I sometimes think of the fun times we had together, and all the ways in which we connected as good friends do. And I still feel a bit heartbroken about some of these lovely women. But, I actually think this is part of the process of friendship, and love, and life. And is a healthy thing that must be done sometimes.
4. HOW MEN OFTEN ROB WOMEN OF THEIR SEXUAL POWER
I honestly don’t remember exactly what I had in mind for this post. But, I think it was something along the lines of subtle ways in which this happens. Subtle things that a man may say or do to a woman, especially in a sexual situation, that may make her feel sexually insecure. Or that may make her feel shame-filled or powerless with regards to her sexuality.
This is a tricky topic, because I think that women can be JUST as guilty of doing this to their sexual partners as well. But, over the years, I have definitely experienced consistent, negative feedback from my male partners. That was so subtle and shocking in the moment, that I often didn’t even comprehend my feelings about it. And over the years, I have come to realize that more often than not, those comments or actions were about them and their own insecurities. And not about me. But still, it’s super not okay, not helpful, and actually hurtful, and very destructive.
I’m all for open communication between sexual partners. In fact, I don’t think anyone can have a satisfying sex life without talking about it. However, there is a way to communicate when it comes to this topic, that can be constructive, instead of hurtful and/or dismissive. And unfortunately, I don’t really recall ever receiving gentle, loving, constructive criticism from any of my sexual partners.
In case you’re curious, I have experienced a partner telling me to “Shut the F up” in a moment of intimacy. And he wasn’t playing, he really meant it.
I have also experienced a partner getting angry with me when I attempted to ask (as gently and nicely as possible) for something I was wanting him to do differently in that moment.
And the most frustrating was, I was very often told by a former love partner that I was not comfortable enough with my sexuality. And yet, when I would attempt to experiment, express, and/or step outside of my sexual comfort zone, I was then met with his criticism about those attempts. It was like I just couldn’t win, no matter what I did. Ultimately, again, I finally realized that I was actually much more comfortable with my sexuality than he was. Which is why he was projecting all of those criticisms onto me. And my comfort and confidence within my own sexuality seemed to feel very threatening to him. But, at the time, those comments messed with my head and my confidence. And I always thought I was the one at fault. Ugh!
5. 4 SPECIAL HUMANS WHO HAVE ALWAYS BEEN THERE
I created this unwritten blog post shortly after my breakup. Because I was receiving such amazing support from so many people around me. And I just wanted to formally thank them. I’m not sure why this inspiration died, but it kind of did. However, I can thank them here and say that the four special humans I was going to write about were my twin sister, my father, my best friend, and ummmmmm, I can’t remember the fourth, ha! Needless to say, these people all know how much I
need appreciate them. So, a blog post devoted to this did seem a bit superfluous.
6. HOW TO DATE ONLINE LIKE A GODDESS
This post was inspired by some ridiculous online dating lessons I have learned over the years. But, it entailed me trashing a few anonymous men who I came across on the dating apps. And that just kinda felt like bad karma to me, to say terrible things about strangers. I mean, they were kind of terrible. Or, at least, their actions and behaviors were terrible. But still, it felt a bit petty, unhelpful, and cruel to expand upon some details.
Read my article, “I’m Back On The Dating Apps And I’m Optimistic!”
THAT’S ALL FOR NOW FOLKS!
So, those are all of my current unwritten blog posts. And I’m sure there will be more to come in the months and years that follow. Again, I do think this is part of the blogging process. And I believe every blogger in this joint has unwritten blog posts that they just can’t seem to finish. It’s still fascinating to hear other people’s ideas though. And I hope you found mine interesting, at the very least!
THANK YOU FOR READING!
So, if you are a blogger, do you have unwritten blog posts? And what do you think of this idea? Again, this was K E Garland‘s brilliant idea, so please give her some love by mentioning her blog if you decide to write your own list. Thank you always for reading!! xo
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