This is another lifewithlilred inspired post, and I have to say, lilred moved me slightly out of my comfort zone for this one–which is why it’s a perfect Goddess Attainable topic. The life of a goddess is not about remaining static and staying stuck (although of course, that’s always part of life, so don’t panic if you’re feeling stuck), but rather taking chances, embracing opportunities for growth, and essentially, risking making a complete ass of yourself.
lilred suggested we each write a post about an outfit that makes us feel like a goddess, and even though I love fashion, I love my style, and I love putting lots of Aphrodite energy into my appearance, I have to say that since quarantine began (almost exactly a year ago), I feel like I have forgotten how to dress myself. I truly have not strayed from the pajama bottom, cotton top, snuggly socks, oversized wool cardigan grandmother sweater look, since probably April 2020. I call this look my Quarantine Uniform, and it has served me well. I work from home and I can’t really rationalize stuffing myself into jeans or any kind of cute outfit, if I’m just home all day with no one around but my partner (who luckily, happens to think I look adorable in just about anything, including my QU).
I almost never wear dresses. You know why? Because I feel INCREDIBLY feminine, beautiful, powerful, and vulnerable in them, and that’s a difficult way for me to feel in my day to day life (pre-quarantine commuting, working, running around, tasking, etc.). When I put on a dress, I instantly feel like a different woman, and truly do feel like a legit goddess. Dresses are sensuous and drift across my flesh like a wispy, spring-scented breeze. Dresses don’t hold anything in, and for the most part, allow for lots of FLOW.
At the same time, and I know this sounds sinister and totally dark and terrible, but they are much more accessible to perpetrators. I know, I’m so dark, but that’s where my mind goes. If I was walking down the street and a man tried to assault me, he would have a much harder time breaking through my high-waisted, skin-tight jeans, than a flowing dress with easy access. So there’s that vulnerable component for me. I feel powerful in my beauty (men seriously do double takes and pay much more attention to me when I wear a dress), but vulnerable in my body. And from all of my years of urban living, I just feel much safer, more comfortable, and more equipped to deal with the world in non-dress outfits.
But, the assignment was to wear an outfit that makes me feel like a goddess, and dresses are essentially portals to goddess galaxies.
THE AWKWARD PHOTO SHOOT
Another super important subject that I always consider when I’m putting together a look and constructing a goddess outfit, are the accessories. I’m a details girl, and the kind of jewelry I choose is just as important as everything else. I love my accessories, and these are the ones I chose for this look…
I think it’s important to note that the pattern on this gorgeous goddess dress (purchased from Anthropologie in the summer of 2018) is laced with abstract vaginas. What could be more goddess-esque than that?! I was sold the minute I saw it in the store, and when I tried it on, I felt like I was dripping in femininity.
Thanks so much lifewithlilred for proposing this joint goddess-bonding article. This was actually super fun and I appreciate the opportunity to explore a bit more of my vulnerabilities, my insecurities, my quirks, and my true beauty. No matter our brand of woman, I think taking the time to explore our femininity and our appearance is a super spiritual act, and yet grounded in the sensuous body. This activity tagged all of the chakras for me (from root to crown) and I feel so complete after writing this post. I seriously can’t wait to do another one of these with you! Tag, I’m it!