The idea for this article came to me in a random moment. I was taking the train to work, and was thinking about how many moments of the day females question their own power. Or decide to hide, or dumb it down in some way. And how hard it can be when females express their power deliberately. It’s never easy. Although, I have found that the more I do it, the easier it becomes. But, there are many unassuming ways that females express their power, that can often take others by surprise. Expressing power doesn’t necessarily involve raised voices, physical strength, or other stereotypical “male” expressions of power. Females can express power in everyday behaviors, and can get really good at it, with a bit of courage and persistence.
We as females are fundamentally aware of how others are threatened by our power. And we can mask it within ourselves, before it even rises to the surface. We’ve gotten that good at anticipating rejection and backlash from this world. Because we most likely learned very early on, that when we expressed our power, even as a child, the world did not support it. So, we came up with all kinds of ways to avoid expressing our power. In order to survive, honestly.
Rediscovering our power, and how we express it in the world, is true goddess work. And will happen when we’re ready. Once we’ve come to understand how worthy we are of being human. Because expressing power is a human trait, not exclusive to males. And the goddess path teaches us that we can be lovable and powerful, at the same time!
1. WHEN WE SET BOUNDARIES
Setting boundaries can be really difficult for many people, not just females. But I would say that the world supports men more when it comes to this behavior. When a man sets a boundary, he is viewed as authoritative and confident. And it can be damn right sexy! However, when a woman sets a boundary, she can receive instant judgement and criticism. Both men and women can actually experience feelings of disgust when a woman sets a boundary. That’s how foreign and off-putting people have been conditioned to receive this behavior from females.
However, we must practice setting boundaries. To teach the world a new way to see female power. And to improve our own self-love and self-worth. Even though at first it might SUCK and be really difficult. Eventually, we must get to the point where we can think to ourselves:
“I don’t care how disgusting you see me right now. I love and care about myself and my needs, more than your thoughts of me.”-A modern-day goddess
So, what does setting a boundary look like? Here are a few examples of boundary-setting behavior:
My partner raised his voice at me during an argument, and I felt threatened. So, I asked him to stop raising his voice at me, and removed myself from his proximity.
I have been sharing stories about my love life with my friend, and she has been expressing strong judgements that make me feel unsupported. I have expressed this to her, but the judgements have continued. So, from now on, I will stop discussing my love life with her, even if she asks me about it.
My supervisor asked me to perform a task that I felt was too much for one person to handle. I discussed this with him and offered clear explanations and details to support my point. And I then asked him to allow me to share this workload with another person.
2. WHEN WE SHARE OUR HONEST AND VULNERABLE EMOTIONS
This one can be tricky. Because emotions and weakness are a thing that both women and men have been conditioned to believe go hand-in-hand. But this is simply not true. Human beings are emotional. And expressing them openly takes courage and strength. More so for men, honestly. And I sympathize with the male gender. Who have been taught from a very early age that expressing emotions are disgusting, pathetic, and should be avoided. It takes males far more courage to express their emotions, than it does for females.
However, when it comes to women, there is still a stigma. It’s just different. When women express emotions, we are often seen as “crazy,” “irrational,” “hysterical,” or “too sensitive,” and it can be really hard to be taken seriously in emotional moments. And it’s true, I do believe there is a mature and immature way of expressing emotions. And this is just something we as females learn over time.
Either way, emotional expression is very powerful, especially when we can allow ourselves to be vulnerable in the moment. Expressing anger can be powerful, yes, without question. But, expressing feelings of insecurity or shame also can be phenomenally powerful moments.
Making ourselves vulnerable is powerful, because it opens us up to the world. And exposes us to criticism, judgement, and pain. But this kind of act, also says to the world:
“I’m scared right now, but not enough to be quiet, or hide myself from you.”-A modern-day goddess
3. WHEN WE SAY NO
Saying no is a bit of a repeat of setting boundaries, I know. But, I still think it deserves its own mention. Because I do believe, speaking from personal experience, that saying no is an integral part of manifestation.
Saying no to things we don’t want, and things we don’t like, is ultimately saying yes. To those things we DO want. Being wishy washy about our desires is the worst way to manifest something. And can be really confusing to the Universe. Who is trying to give us what we want. And of course, saying yes is very powerful as well. But I think saying yes to things is actually much easier than saying no. Yes is viewed as positive and agreeable. No, on the other hand, can be viewed as challenging, negative, and against the grain of things. However, when females express their NO to the world, they are taking a chance. They are stepping out of their “accommodating” suit, and instead, slipping into a gold-encrusted sheath of dreams!
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If you are not used to saying no, you might want to start off small and work your way up.
No thank you, I don’t want any black pepper on my salad.
I don’t really want to watch this show on TV. Can we watch this one?
Thank you for asking, but no, I don’t really like that color for the wallpaper in our bathroom.
No, I don’t want that for dinner tonight. How about we try here instead?
No, I can’t meet up at that time, but I can do this time?
4. WHEN WE ARE CONFIDENT TO OUR CORE ABOUT SOMETHING
This one is also quite tricky. You know why? Because I think this one, more than any other unassuming way that females express power, invokes the strongest negative reactions in others. I could honestly, probably write an entire blog post about this. I actually do, in my article, “The World Is Petrified Of Strong Females.”
I honestly feel really overwhelmed about how to break this one down. So, I wonder if I can instead, invite you to contemplate this one on your own. And perhaps examine how being around a confident woman makes you feel. I struggle with this myself, actually. And have to regularly check myself when I am reacting to a woman’s assured radiance and poised glow. I write more about this in my article, “Confessions Of An Envious Goddess.”
I think both women and men can react negatively to a confident woman. Because honestly, a woman who knows who she is, and believes in herself, through and through, is legitimately unstoppable. Men know it, women know it, and it can be intimidating AF! And when we are intimidated by a powerful woman, we react in all kinds of ways.
We might run and hide ourselves.
Or, we might puff ourselves up more than usual, to try to compete.
Unfortunately, we might try to tear her down, behind her back, or to her face.
Even worse, a woman often befriends another woman she’s jealous of, and then proceeds to tear her down within the friendship. (I have had this one happen to me multiple times, and it’s so hurtful and baffling.)
And some men might try to sabotage her at work, or insult her in front of others, or verbally abuse her, to throw her off her game.
It can be really difficult for a woman to maintain her confidence and power in the face of so much jealousy and intimidation. But she must. Because again, the world must learn a new way to accept women basking in their power.
5. WHEN WE ARE LAUGHING AND JOYOUS
A joyous woman is a free woman. Free in her body, and free in her life. And when a woman expresses joy through laughter or other means, she is a sight to behold.
To experience laughter and joy requires openness and freedom from fear. And openness is the opposite of restriction. When we are restricted, we are tight and closed off. And when we are free from restriction and constriction, we are boundless. When females express joy, they are open and powerful. Because they are allowing their bodies, souls, and minds to expand. And when we expand, we take up space. And that makes others pay attention.
Patriarchal ideals would prefer to keep females closed, and constricted, and small. These ideals don’t want females taking up more space than males.
But, the thing that’s so powerful about joy and laughter, is that it inspires this in others. It’s really a win-win, and the world has everything to gain from a woman’s laughter and joy. This can open hearts, build bridges of understanding, and melt walls of conflict. Joy and laughter are soft and filled with love. And the more we as women take up space through our joy and laughter, the more hearts we open.
THANK YOU FOR READING!
So, when do you feel most powerful? And have you ever experienced negativity from others when you are feeling powerful? Do you have men and women in your life who support you in your power? And do you support and encourage the powerful women in your life? Please share with me your thoughts! xo
Singing joyfully, while my amused sister supported me in my power as she was taking this picture.
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