This is the first time I have ever openly expressed my experience with spirit guide communication. The only people who know about my guides are my closest friends, and they in fact helped me discover my guides. But more about that later. If you think this is a bunch of silly crap, I totally understand. I’m not pushing my beliefs on anyone else, and don’t even really know what I believe. I am just sharing one goddess’s experience with you. So feel free to take whatever pieces you like, and leave the rest behind. But try to be open, because you might just have spirit guides of your own waiting to connect with you!
My friends actually helped me discover my guides during a Danielle LaPorte “Desire Map” workshop we conducted for ourselves back in 2013. I share extensively about this Desire Map workshop in my article MAPPING MY DESIRES FOR 2021.
Keep in mind, I do believe that spirit guides are different than spirit animals, although they can possibly overlap. And I think the way to go about meeting them can differ. If you’re curious about animal guides, you can read more about it in my article HOW TO GET IN TOUCH WITH YOUR SPIRIT ANIMAL. But again, these are just my own personal experiences. If you want to get in touch with your guides (animal or non-animal), you most likely will be able to in whatever way is most comfortable for you!
From my experience, and from the experience of my friends as well, animal guides often look and feel like a combination of multiple animals and entities. For instance, a horse-camel-dog with wings! But that’s also not always the case, so just trust yourself.
SPIRITUAL FRIEND GROUP
As I mentioned, I met my guides with the help of my spiritual friend group. However, I don’t think you need a spiritual friend group in order to experience spirit guide communication. So, don’t worry if you don’t have a group! Allow me to take the place of a friend group and just consider my experience as a jumping off point for yourself.
During this Desire Map workshop from 2013, we were all going around sharing answers to the questions provided by the workbook. And in sharing one of my answers, I found myself describing three very specific characters. I don’t even remember what the question was. But I do remember the silence in the room as I was describing these entities. See, I didn’t think they were entities and I didn’t realize they were my guides. In describing my guides, I thought I was describing all of these different parts of myself.
YOUR GUIDES WILL OFTEN PRESENT THEMSELVES AS ASPECTS OF YOURSELF THAT YOU ASPIRE TO
Here’s the difference though, between just imagining the best version of yourself, and recognizing a spirit guide. Your guide will actually look and feel kinda different from you, but it will have aspects that you admire and want more of. They kinda fill in the gaps of what’s missing in your personality and/or what you need to cultivate within yourself. Depending on how you best receive intuitive information, the details will be very specific. For me, I typically receive information through visuals and emotions (clairvoyant and clairsentient, respectively).
The silence in the room as I was describing these “parts of myself” was because my friends could clearly see what I was completely blind to. My friends all waited patiently as I finished describing these three “parts of myself” in full detail. And once I was finished, they all unanimously agreed. Practically in unison, they told me, “Ummmmm, Lib, these aren’t parts of yourself. You just described your spirit guides.” Again, if you don’t have a loving group to reflect this kind of thing back to you, let me hold that space for you now.
My friends encouraged me to spend time cultivating my spirit guide communication. And then they told me that I should ultimately name each of my spirit guides.
INTRODUCING MY SPIRIT GUIDES
I’m happy to introduce to you the three guides I have had a relationship with since 2013. They are all very real to me. And naming them, and meeting with them regularly, has helped me to forge a very close and trusting bond with them.
The more you engage in spirit guide communication, the closer you will become with your guides. Spirit guide communication is just like communication in any other relationship you have. It should be ongoing and reciprocal.
Honestly, it’s not like I meet with my guides every day or anything, although some people do. Sometimes I go months without talking to them. But, I go to them when I need them, and I have definitely needed them over the years. I also call on them as a group if I’m meditating or just kind of praying in general.
Helena is sort of a younger, but elder, type of female, and has kind of a Mother Mary feel to her. I am not a Catholic or Christian and do not practice any specific religion. However, Mother Mary is a recognizable, cultural icon that kind of matches Helena’s vibe. She wears pale blue and violet colors and is in a flowing dress/robe thingy. Also, she has something over her head, like a scarf or something of the same pale colors. She is always smiling.
She is gentle, peaceful, calm, motherly, and is very wise, but never pushes her guidance. I actually haven’t worked with Helena all that much yet, but I know she is there whenever I need her. Some guides come in and out of your life and/or you won’t utilize them until you reach a certain stage in your growth.
Ramona pretty much looks and behaves exactly like the character Ramona Quimby, imagined by the brilliant Beverly Cleary. She is a little child and is a spitfire. Her energy is very intense and gruff, and I don’t believe she smiles all that often. She takes herself and her role as my guide very seriously, but also has healthy boundaries. She is gritty and kinda scrubby and is the least self-conscious being ever. Ramona doesn’t take shit from ANYONE and she is the guide that often tells me what I don’t want to hear, but what I need to hear. She has been known to take me by the hand (clairvoyantly) and drag me somewhere that I at first didn’t want to go. However, she is so full of love and is always doing what’s best for me. But she’s tough. I love her!
Jackie is my guide for all things sexual. She is NOTHING like me! Her skin is perpetually greasy and sweaty and she is always half naked. She wears a gold bikini kind of top and a barely-there, gold drape cloth around her waste. But she’s not going swimming, she just walks around like this all day. She has dark hair and dark features and exudes sexuality and comfort within her body. She is very relaxed, loving, and supportive.
I have a shared meeting location where I meet all of my guides at once (more on that next). However, if I am engaging in spirit guide communication with Jackie specifically, we meet in a water cave. The cave is somewhere tropical and is surrounded by an ocean. Within the cave, there are multiple sitting pools (kind of like natural hot tubs) and everything in there is swelteringly hot and humid.
If you know anything about me, you know that I HATE the heat and that NOTHING about this location is comfortable for me. But, she’s here to help with all of this.
LOCATION WHERE YOU CAN CONDUCT SPIRIT GUIDE COMMUNICATION
If and when you do connect with your spirit guides, it’s best to choose a location that you can regularly come back to. This location can be somewhere fictional or somewhere that you have been to before. It should be your happy place and you should feel very comfortable there. But, it’s important to establish this location so both you and your guides can forge your bond through regular meetings in the same spot every time.
My meeting place is an actual place in nature that is very sacred to me. I don’t have to physically be there in order to connect with my guides. And actually, when I am physically in this spot, I don’t ever really engage in spirit guide communication. But I take myself to this place in my mind whenever I have a question for my guides, and they instantly show up every time, standing in a circle with me, sharing their love and ready to offer guidance.
This is the location, in my beloved park in Pennsylvania, that I go to in my mind when I communicate with my spirit guides.
WAYS TO MEET YOUR SPIRIT GUIDES
Okay, so by now, I’m sure you might be wondering how you go about meeting your guides. Honestly, this is so personal, and will be really different for everyone. However, there are a few things that will help this process along, and that will give you a better chance of meeting your guides.
1. DEVELOP AND GET MORE COMFORTABLE WITH YOUR INTUITION
Even though your guides are actual entities, they are still showing up in your mind and your consciousness, and not in the flesh. If this is already out of your comfort zone, it’s okay. But intuition is a natural thing that we all have.
When you dream at night, you are in fact tapping into that same intuitive channel.
If you ever have a “gut feeling,” that is your intuition communicating with your solar plexus, urging you to act or not act.
When a thought comes to you and it plays out later in your life in a synchronistic way, that initial thought was an intuitive spark. For example, say you decide not to run errands one day and instead stay home and read. And later that day, a freak storm sweeps through your town. Looking back, you would have been caught in this dangerous storm if you would have gone out. In this case, your intuition led you to make a decision that was best for you, even if it didn’t make sense logically at the time.
Clairvoyant intuition feels really natural for many of us, whether we realize it or not. If you close your eyes right now and imagine an apple, you are sharpening your clairvoyant skills just a bit. The vision of the apple in your mind is just a vision. But, I bet you can describe it to someone in detail. You may even be able to taste it in your mind or imagine how it feels in your hand.
Clairvoyant visions feel a bit like that. When I “see” my guides, I am seeing them in my mind’s eye. And the more I trust in those visions, the more visions I receive. It’s just a muscle that needs to be exercised.
2. DO A MEDITATION TO MEET YOUR SPIRIT GUIDE(S)
You can choose to do a guided meditation if you would like a bit more structure. There are so many videos and tracks out there that offer this kind of thing. However, I’m not linking any here since I don’t want to recommend anything that I haven’t personally tried. But this is your journey, so go with what feels right for you!
You can also do your own meditation! The easiest thing to do is to sit or lie down in a comfortable position. You will be fully awake for this. Spend some time with your eyes closed, breathing and getting calm before you begin. Then, imagine that location that I mentioned above. If this is the place that you will regularly meet your guides, you may as well start here. Also, this location might change over time, so if you feel like you need to change it at a certain point, just go with it, it’s okay. This is for you, and your guides will go where you go.
Once you are in your dream location, just ask for a guide to appear. It might be easier to begin with one, but don’t be surprised if multiple guides appear. Just keep breathing and try to remain open. Trust whatever shows up! A small child like Ramona doesn’t seem like someone who would be able to guide me in life. But she’s a powerful guide, and she just happens to come in that tiny button of a package.
Whether you do a guided meditation, or conduct one on your own, it’s important to trust yourself. Trust this process, and trust whatever comes to you. If and when a guide does arrive, try initiating some spirit guide communication. You can ask for their name, or just look at them, listen, or allow anything that comes to come.
Don’t be discouraged if no one appears at first. You actually can’t force this process, and your guides may show up at very different times in your life. You haven’t done anything wrong if no one appears. It might just mean you are doing pretty fine on your own and haven’t been assigned any guides yet!
This also takes practice. If this is the first time you are mediating, or the first time you are really working with your intuition, it might be difficult to achieve instant results. You may need to work your way up to things. So, if you are novice, just spend some time on a regular basis, visiting this “location” in meditation. See and trust what shows up for you, and you will begin to fine tune the difference between what comes through intuitively, and what thoughts and visions you are forcing in your mind. There is a 100% difference between the two, but it may feel subtle at first and takes time to recognize.
If you do meet one of your guides, once you are finished, be sure to thank them for coming forth, just as a courtesy. Then be sure to write everything down afterwards. Additional information might come to you in written form.
4. YOUR GUIDE MIGHT ARRIVE BY ACCIDENT
Like me, your guides may show up in a non-meditative way. I can’t really explain how this might happen for you, but just be open. Be open to any personified characters that you may have “invented” in your mind, even if at first it was just for fun. You might already have an alter ego, or avatar that you have already named and can describe in full detail. Consider the fact that this might be one of your guides! Once you recognize them as a guide, and not a made up character, you can begin to have an exchange with them. A guide is not there for show. They are there because they have been assigned to help you in some way. So, you will reap more benefits when you begin to communicate with them in a more deliberate way.
You never know, Sasha Fierce might very well actually be Beyoncé’s spirit guide!
5. YOUR GUIDE MIGHT SHOW UP IN A DREAM
I am actually inspired to write this article because I believe I just met a new spirit guide in a dream last night.
I believe I received my first spirit guide communication with Kiki when I was filling out a brainstorming worksheet for this online blogging class I attended. On this worksheet, we were asked to fill out information about our “Reader Avatar.” We had to describe our reader in detail and it was a fantastic exercise. I described bits and pieces of Kiki, but the idea of her was still a bit fuzzy. I never continued with the class (I don’t really like being told what to do when it comes to my blog!). However, this brainstorming exercise stuck with me, and the description of Kiki felt so detailed and real.
This was a few weeks ago, and last night I had a dream. I really don’t remember much about the dream, but I think I was walking through a mall or something, and there were people everywhere. And then there was Kiki, in front of me, kind of dancing and being fabulous. I woke up and still didn’t yet realize Kiki was my guide. However, the visual of her remained strong and became even sharper as I emerged from my sleep. Then, as I was sitting on the toilet (brilliant, intuitive information often comes to me on the toilet in the wee hours of the morning!), I just kind of knew. The image of Kiki was still with me, minutes after I was awake from the dream, and I just knew she was a guide.
Claircognizant, or “clear knowing” is another form of intuition. Like when someone says, “I met him and just knew he was the one.” You just kind of know, even if again, it doesn’t make much logical sense.
MEET KIKI, MY NEWEST GUIDE
I will do my best to describe her. But since I just met her and haven’t yet worked with her, I still don’t know her very well!
Kiki looks to be about 40- or 50-something. She has dark skin and wild, flowing, curly, uncontrolled, bushy hair. Her hair color is kind of light and kind of dark, all at once. She has a kick ass body as well, from what I can tell. She’s strong and also comes across as very feminine. She almost floats and appears to not have a care in the world. Kiki is a true free spirit. She glows, both inside and out. Her energy is not tough, but in fact, very loving and joy-filled. She isn’t really a badass, but she has a very strong presence. Kiki is soft and open, and would enjoy giving hugs to everyone she meets. And most importantly, she is wearing my soul color.
However, as she came into sharper focus, I saw that she is also wearing a deep, emerald green pair of pants. The pants are flowing with a stretchy waist-band, made of a silky material, and pleated. And finally, she has a leopard printed scarf that she just wears and twirls and always has with her.
That’s all for now. I don’t know much more, but I can sense her personality is much more free than I’m used to. She’s kind of free like Jackie. But Kiki’s freedom is not tied exclusively to her sexuality. She is very go with the flow. And if you read my MAPPING MY DESIRES FOR 2021 article, you will know that I have been wanting to bring more flow into my life. I struggle with this a great deal, but I want this for myself. And maybe Kiki is here to help with that!
I wish you so much luck on your journey to meeting your spirit guides! Did you enjoy this article? Have you ever worked with your intuition before? Have you already met your spirit guides? Or, do you have an existing alter ego that MIGHT be a guide?
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