A LOVE LETTER TO FEMALES WITH A STRONG PERSONALITY

I was in the car yesterday and was listening to a song from my youth. I wasn’t like a huge Silverchair (ca. 1997) fan or anything. But, a boy I was obsessed with in high school liked them. So, at the time, I made myself listen to a few songs, and actually still really like one of them. And hearing this song in the car got me thinking about the way I behaved when I was younger. I had a strong personality always, but so very often muffled myself in order to be liked and accepted. And I began wondering if there are other females like me who have strong personalities and have experienced being shamed for it. Continue reading A LOVE LETTER TO FEMALES WITH A STRONG PERSONALITY

REAL AND RAW RECOLLECTIONS OF BOOZE, CIGGIES, AND LOVE

This is the third post of my “Real and Raw” guest post series. This post, “Recollections Of Booze, Ciggies, And Love,” was written by my lovely, talented, and precious Aunt Sandy. Sandy has always been a creative person, and has been putting her art out into the world for as long as I’ve known her. She is a visual artist and crafter, but is also a beautiful writer, as you will see below. Continue reading REAL AND RAW RECOLLECTIONS OF BOOZE, CIGGIES, AND LOVE

5 UNASSUMING WAYS THAT FEMALES EXPRESS THEIR POWER

The idea for this article came to me in a random moment. I was taking the train to work, and was thinking about how many moments of the day females question their own power. Or decide to hide, or dumb it down in some way. And how hard it can be when females express their power deliberately. It’s never easy. Although, I have found that the more I do it, the easier it becomes. But, there are many unassuming ways that females express their power, that can often take others by surprise. Expressing power doesn’t necessarily involve raised voices, physical strength, or other stereotypical “male” expressions of power. Females can express power in everyday behaviors, and can get really good at it, with a bit of courage and persistence. Continue reading 5 UNASSUMING WAYS THAT FEMALES EXPRESS THEIR POWER

THE THINGS I’M FOCUSING ON NOW, OTHER THAN MEN

I know I recently declared that I’m now taking a deep dive into the dating apps. Since I was dumped a few months ago, and was feeling more ready to give dating a try. And I’m not saying I’m swearing off dating apps forever. I haven’t had terrible experiences since I got back on the apps. And there’s really no reason why I’m feeling inspired to put the apps down already. Other than the fact that I JUST DON’T WANT TO DATE RIGHT NOW. I’m just not feeling interested in men, or relationships, or romance, or sex, or flirting, or dating, or any of that stuff. Not at all. And it’s kind of wigging me out. Because this is all I’ve ever been interested in, ever. Since I was five years old! And this is the first time I’m really interested in things other than men. Continue reading THE THINGS I’M FOCUSING ON NOW, OTHER THAN MEN

ATTENTION MEN: BEAUTIFUL WOMEN HAVE PROBLEMS TOO

I was riding on the train this morning, on the way to work. And I’ll start off by saying that I consider myself to be a beautiful woman. I’m not sorry about it. And beautiful women should never apologize for their beauty, because they actually, really can’t help it. Although I do take care of myself, I honestly can’t take much credit for my beauty. Because I basically just lucked out in the gene pool, and that’s just kind of the way it goes. I won’t apologize for it, and I mostly just try to enjoy it while it lasts. Because I also know that my beauty, or I should say, the kind of beauty that is valued in our society, is literally fading with every passing day. And that’s totally okay too. However, I still feel radiant and beautiful most days, and today was no exception. Continue reading ATTENTION MEN: BEAUTIFUL WOMEN HAVE PROBLEMS TOO

THOUGHTS I HAVE EVERY TIME I VISIT THE GYNECOLOGIST

This is the third post of my “Real and Raw” guest post series. This post, “Thoughts I Have Every Time I Visit The Gynecologist,” was written by my blogging bestie, the gorgeous Moksha of The Happy Panda. Moksha once described me as her older and wiser self. And I do believe we are true kindred spirits. Because I have always seen so much of my younger self in her, before she even made that comparison. Continue reading THOUGHTS I HAVE EVERY TIME I VISIT THE GYNECOLOGIST

WELCOME TO THE GRAVEYARD OF UNWRITTEN BLOG POSTS

The idea for this blog post is 100% inspired by my newest and dearest blogging friend K E Garland. Her original post, “8 Titles Of Blogs I’m Not Going To Write,” inspired me with its pep, variation, and substance. And also, as a blogger, I can relate to creating an amazing title for a blog post and then losing the inspiration to write about it. Unwritten blog posts are just part of the creative blogging process and no big deal. And so, I love how Kathy captured this, and I kinda just love her in general! She also recently guest posted for me, and wow, this article got SO much love. She’s thoughtful, badass, honest, brilliant, and goddess-esque to her core. So, of course I love her! Continue reading WELCOME TO THE GRAVEYARD OF UNWRITTEN BLOG POSTS

BEING SINGLE DOESN’T HAVE TO MEAN BEING MISERABLE

In this podcast episode, I share a bit about the grieving process over my recent breakup, and where I am at now, after all is said and done. And I expand upon a new way of being single, that entails avoiding the angst, and drama, and desperate longing, that often accompanied my search for love in the past. And how I’m excited by a new approach to finding love that doesn’t involve so much struggle. I also share about how I’m coming to terms with the fact that I really do need to find a way to get to a place of complete happiness, with or without a partner. And how I must learn new ways of living life as a single person, and letting go of such intense focus on finding someone. Being single and being miserable must no longer be mutually exclusive!!  Continue reading BEING SINGLE DOESN’T HAVE TO MEAN BEING MISERABLE

IT’S IMPOSSIBLE TO AVOID NERVOUSNESS ON A FIRST DATE!

So, I’m going on my first date tonight, post-breakup. You gals, this is a HUGE deal. This is the first date I’ve been on in over three and a half years. And even though I’m a bit out of practice, I’ve been on enough dates in the past. To know that it’s impossible to avoid nervousness on a first date. And I think understanding this fact, can actually ease a bit of the stress. It’s another flavor of accepting life on life’s terms. To know that when it comes to dating, this is just part of it, and there’s no getting around it. And to try to not be nervous, I think just makes things worse. Continue reading IT’S IMPOSSIBLE TO AVOID NERVOUSNESS ON A FIRST DATE!

THERE ARE OTHER KINDS OF VALUABLE INTELLIGENCES BESIDES THE PATRIARCHAL KIND

I will start off this post by saying that in no way am I knocking patriarchal intelligence. And if you don’t know what I mean by patriarchal intelligence, I’ll explain below. Please know that I believe there are all kinds of intelligences, and I think that all of them are valuable. And this article is more to express my frustration about the fact that patriarchal intelligence has historically received (and still receives) WAY more respect, throughout the entire globe, than most other kinds of intelligences. And it pisses me off. Continue reading THERE ARE OTHER KINDS OF VALUABLE INTELLIGENCES BESIDES THE PATRIARCHAL KIND